When you start getting up to the 60-70gpm flow ranges, those levers get a little hard to push and pull. The valve in the pic I posted does have a lever and is self centered. Its rated for 70gpm. It uses a air cyl to shift the spools. Now the problem with air shift is you cant feather the valve, its either centered, letting oil just pass thru the valve, or its wide open, directing the flow to the cyl, motor or what ever.
As for the valve building the pressure, thats not the way it works, no pressure is built until the oil flow meets resistance, the cyl splitting the log is what causes pressure to build. the harder the log is to split, the more pressure the pump will build. There should always be a relief between the pump and the control valve to protect the pump. The control valve in my pic has a main relief as well as extra reliefs on the A and B ports. You can set the pressure in both directions. The Valve is also a closed system valve, but is convertable to open center by removing the adapter for power beyond.
There are several kinds of piloted control valves, and I have only seen a few. Air is one type, using hyd pressure is another, When it comes to using oil to shift the valves, I have seen a couple of types, one uses a smaller lever actuated control valve, usually at low pressure, 250-600psi, to direct oil to shift the main control valve. Another is the electric solenoid valve that shifts the spool that directs oil to shift the main spool in the main control valve. From what I have seen, the latter, is what seems to be the most common. You will see a 12 or 24 volt DC, solenoid on top of another spool valve thats bolted on top of another spool valve that mounted on a subplate. Inside factories, the solenoid valves could be AC voltage instead of DC.
Rexroth Hydraulic Proportional Directional Control Valve R9 947117 & R9 955887 | eBay, Heres one such valve on ebay and they are asking $1150 for, and you would still need to buy the subplate to go with it. This why I said the OP's project can get expensive in a hurry because if you dont have some of these parts just lying around, you're going to have to scrounge very hard to find them, or start hitting the catalogs.