Life after an accident

/ Life after an accident #1  

goodoleboy

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I wonder what happens to people who are involved in accidents after the fact? Do they go back to the farm or give it up all together and refuse to have anything to do with it?

Such as where a spouse,parent, grandparent is involved in a tractor/farming injury and the other was the cause.
 
/ Life after an accident #2  
I once ran a commercial fishing boat. While doing that I ran across some who had family members that had died from fishing accidents. I asked them the same kind of questions and usually received quizzical look and the answers: "It's who we are!"
 
/ Life after an accident #3  
I'm sure it's a very personal decision only the affected individual can make. I have a remotely similar situation. My dad was killed in a car accident. I continue to work in the auto industry and continue to drive my own vehicles. Life has to go on /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif
 
/ Life after an accident #4  
My best friend and his brother farm together. Their place is just down the road from mine. Several years back, Kevins brother was hauling round bales to their feedlot, from a hayfield located along the busy state highway we live on. He had one bale on the loader forks and another on a rear bale spear. A car came up on him WAY too fast. It tried to pass, but there was a car coming. He cut back, but didn't have enough room to stop. He slammed into the rear of the tractor. Terry (the guy on the tractor) was injured, but not as bad as you might think. The driver of the car, and his passenger were killed instantly. /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif

4 days later, I saw Terry back at the same exact spot, doing the same exact job.

Like it was said, life goes on.

I'm sure different situations effect different people different ways.....
 
/ Life after an accident #5  
My wife grew up on a dairy farm in northern Illinois until she was 12 years old. That's when her father died in a farming accident. Her mother found him tangled-up in a combine head in a field he was harvesting with the equipment still running. Even after 15 years of marriage and 32 years since the accident, I don't probe for more details for obvious reasons (too painful for my wife to talk about).

All I know is that everyone who knew the guy who would have been my FIL said he was the greatest man you could ever imagine meeting. He was proud of the fact that the only bank loan he had was the one he got to buy his farm. All his tractors and equipment he bought used and at auctions and would fix them up. I think working with equipment that was past its prime was a factor in him having to unjam his combine head.

Even though my wife operated large ag tractors from the time she was 10, she won't go near my little JD 4010 CUT. When I wanted to get my tractor, she fought me every-which way she could using every argument possible except for the real reason which is she is afraid of machinery.

Jim
 
/ Life after an accident #6  
I believe it depends a mostly on the person and their circumstances. If a family menber of yours were to die in an auto accident would you quit riding/driving ? If the farm is your familys life and a member is killed on the farm would you give up your way of making a living and feeding your family ? It is a decision each person has to make. For myself I believe you need to get back on the horse that threw you.
 
/ Life after an accident #7  
I hope I go doing something I love.

If it happens to be on a tractor, drivin a plane, or in my favorite ole truck - I hope that no one gives up being around the things they love just because that is the way I went....

Now if it is something they hate- I hope they give it up before they are influenced by something that happened to me... and move on to something they love ...



I also enjoy sleeping - so going in my sleep wouldn't be bad.
If I go in my sleep are you guys gonna quit sleeping ?

I friend of mine died in an airplane crash... I never for one moment thought about quitting flying - an I know he wouldn't have wanted or expected me too...

There is a saying I've seen someone post I believe on this forum about sliding into heavens gate all worn out and used up - which means LIVE LIVE LIVE well and when its time to go - then you'll have time to take it easy and safe...
 
/ Life after an accident #8  
this past july i was fishing in the fog off long island ny in a 25' center console. we hear a boat off our starboard bow cruising at speed. before we could react here it comes....34' sea ray apparently on auto pilot on full plane with no one at the wheel.
my 3 friends jumped right before impact. i had on alot my foul weather gear,boots etc....i did not jump.

well he rammed us or more like crushed us at about 25-30 knots. we were drifting. took out the center console,a portion of the bow. you could see the marks where his twin props came across the bow.

boat began to sink. i threw the guys the anchor ball,life jackets,got them back on the boat.called a mayday to the coast guard,we stabilized the boat.coasties came and transported us to the hospital etc......a long story

i ended up with a broken foot,sprained knee,broken ribs,broken sternum,concussion,nerve damage on my left side
now they want to operate on my neck.....ouch.

but anyway i will be back out fishing again.but never again when there is a chance of fog and never again on a boat that is not equipped with radar.

actually we are all going out on the guy's new boat on our first anniversary this july.

you never know when your time is up. my wife just shook her head when i got home. i used up my nine lives years ago. she say's i am the luckiest person in the world. been in numerous car wrecks,motorcycle accident,run over by a cab in n.y.c. (i had the crosswalk) . i was late for work in tower 2 on sept.11th.

Many of my friends are commercial fisherman and too many have died at sea. i will still go to sea.

i have a friend who's child drowned at home in the pool. the pool was filled and is now a patio.

tragedy effects different people in different ways.

alot of stuff happens in life and you just have to get back on the horse.

stay safe
scott
 
/ Life after an accident #9  
Scott,

Glad no one was killed in that one.

What happened to the other boat? Hit and run, or did it suffer serious damage as well?
 
/ Life after an accident #10  
Years ago my uncle was killed in an automobile accident while on his way to work for the families heating/cooling business.

The police on the scene said that another car failed to make a stop at a intersection and hit Robert broadside. The impact threw him out of the car, and the car rolled over on top of him and crushed the life out of him.

Said he would have survived the accident had he been wearing his seat belt at the time of impact.

I have never been in a vehicle since that I did not buckle-up, and my now grown children are the very same way.

Bless you Robert wherever you are. /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif
 
/ Life after an accident
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[Qoute]I also enjoy sleeping - so going in my sleep wouldn't be bad.
If I go in my sleep are you guys gonna quit sleeping ?

I friend of mine died in an airplane crash... I never for one moment thought about quitting flying[/qoute]


What your comparing does not pertain to the question I asked as a close family member or friend is not the cause of the death..


Now If I hurt a family memebr or killed them caused by a machine I sure would think I would stay away from machinery. I love alot of things I use to love going to a cetain dance club with an exgirlfriend. But once we split it was never the same so i never went to that club.
 
/ Life after an accident #12  
Guess I got a little side tracked,,,,,

If I killed someone in that airplane,,,,, friend or family - or anyone for that matter - I would probably have some second thoughts..... The thoughts that would come to mind everytime I got near that airplane or whatever it may be would probably be overwhelming.

tom
 
/ Life after an accident #13  
GoodOleBoy

I'm just curious,,,,

Has something happened, were you involved in an accident and having to deal with it.... maybe a friend ... or just thinking out loud.....

I hope no accidents have visited you,,, just wondered what made you start thinking about it ....

tom
 
/ Life after an accident #14  
I lost my father in August of '95 to a light plane accident. I try to honor his memory by continuing to fly myself. Just my thoughts on the idea.
 
/ Life after an accident #15  
My wife is a deputy sheriff currently assigned as the Housing Sgt. in the county jail. On 4 January, she went into a cell to deal with a whining inmate. Basically the inmate was mad for losing his free time for not making his bed. She had him sit down on his rack, and explained to him the rules of the facility and that if he didn't like it.....don't come to jail.
As she laid the paper work on the desk, he jumped her. Her housing officer was there in 10-12 seconds, the response team in less than 30. In that amount of time he had given her 14 stiches in the head, too many bruises to count, and a discussion.

While she was out of work (2 weeks) several people called to find out when she was resigning. Her standard reply was "Resign, **** I just got my butt kicked, it's not like I lost an organ or something"

We talked a lot. She and I (power industry) accept more risk in our day to day life than the vast majority of people do, and it's that assumption of risk that in part makes us go back, that and the committment and responsibility we feel towards our team.

Don't get me wrong, policy, procedures, and safety manuals all need to be followed but sometimes things happen.

She has recovered and has been back in the jail since mid January. She has faced her attacker, and will do so again in court.

I think it all comes down to the fabric of the individual, and the lessons learned they can apply going forward. If she had decided she just couldn't do it anymore I would have been just as proud of her, as I am for her climbing back on the horse.

I understand and agree with the post "That's who we are"
 
/ Life after an accident #16  
<font color="blue"> In that amount of time he had given her 14 stiches in the head, too many bruises to count, and a discussion.
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kdouthit,

Glad your wife got through that OK!

I do have to tell you though...if she considers that a discussion...I think I'll just bite my tounge and stop talking right now... /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif /forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif /forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif
 
/ Life after an accident #17  
</font><font color="blue" class="small">( In that amount of time he had given her 14 stiches in the head, too many bruises to count, and a discussion.)</font>

I hope they give the gutless jerk another 10 year stretch to think about his manners. /forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif And maybe he'll suddenly become "accident prone"! /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
 
/ Life after an accident #18  
<font color="blue"> I do have to tell you though...if she considers that a discussion...I think I'll just bite my tounge and stop talking right now...
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/ Life after an accident #19  
Discussion....................pretty bad slip on words. Don't feel bad, I'm beginning to worry if I need to be afraid of her. (Just kidding) Nobody can ever say she can't take a punch.

Meant to say concussion.

From what I hear, the ole boy is very clumsy.

The assult on my wife becomes his 3rd felony, so he should be going away for awhile.............
 
/ Life after an accident #20  
I lost a leg in a pto when I was eight. Had to learn how to drive that doggone tractor with one leg. (no joke)
 

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