When I put a post in I put the post, concrete and all of the dirt back in the hole. Nothing is spongy or holding water.
Any disturbed soil will hold more water then undisturbed soil. It's not that it becomes "spongy" but that it holds more water and has a higher water content then undisturbed soil.
If you've done any underground utility work, and had to dig trenches for multiple lines, like water and power, Code in the areas that I've worked, CA and TX, require virgin, undesturbed soil between the trenches. The distance seems to vary depending on who is in charge, but what is important is that there is a wall of virgin soil between the trenches.
No matter how hard you compact the soil, you will never get it back to 100 percent like it was before you dug it. Code where I've worked was in the upper 90 percent and it was tested with a radiactive sort of sonar device that sent a signal into the dirt that bounced back to tell us if we passed compaction or not. At 98 %, which is just about perfect, it still wasn't as solid as undisturbed soil.
Are you saying that your backfilling around a post is going to be better then that?
Using the back of the shovel, and other hand held tools to compact around a post if good enough for a pole barn or fence post. If there is a crown at the top of the post, it will help shed water, but that soil is also going to get more water in it then the soil that was never dug.
Eddie