Need some advice on what to do with parents belongings

[cdaigle430]

I dont want to become a burden to anyone when I get older and die.

 

[txdon]

There were a couple of items that we didn't want to go for too low and bid on ourselves and later sold at a more realistic price.

Did they still charge you the 40% commission on the things you bought?

 

[txdon]

I dont want to become a burden to anyone when I get older and die.

Is that just a wish or do you have a plan, please share.

 

[bigtiller]

"snip"
I was the executor of my Aunt's "estate" when she died. She had no money, lived in an apartment, and left no will. After dealing with all the family on the stuff various people wanted, I wouldn't wish the scenario on anyone.

That is the reason that we decided to hire an executor.
A professional can do the job much easier than the average layperson.

 

[bdog]

My experience has always been that if you aren't sure what to do that's the wrong time to do something... especially when it comes to the death of a loved one.
Just my :2cents:

I agree this is very good advice. I am 100% sure I want to sell her house. I own several rentals and have no desire to keep it as a rental as I couldn't stand to see someone not take care of it. I would never want to live there myself. It is a nice place, but quite a bit smaller than my home and I only live a mile away.

My concern or dilemma is just what to do with their belongings. Of course there are certain things I definitely want to keep but it is more the things I am iffy about that I guess according to your advice choosing to get rid of them could be regretted later. That is why I think I dedicated shop for their stuff is a good idea. If down the road I decide to get rid of it I can do so. If I don't ever mix other things into this shop when the time comes and I die my kids will know that shop is just all the grandparents stuff and they can sell it at or whatever.

 

[Sigarms]

That is the reason that we decided to hire an executor.
A professional can do the job much easier than the average layperson.

My aunt was also my Godmother, and took care of me when my mom went to spend time with my father overseas. She was like a second mother to me at times. It was her request that I handle her "estate". There was no way I was going to give that responsibility to someone else. Way I see it, both my mom and her got a good chuckle out of it because it took like 3 or 4 years to finally get over with. I guess I could of been a pain in the butt sometimes as a kid LOL.

 

[Sigarms]

That is why I think I dedicated shop for their stuff is a good idea. If down the road I decide to get rid of it I can do so. If I don't ever mix other things into this shop when the time comes and I die my kids will know that shop is just all the grandparents stuff and they can sell it at or whatever.

As I said before, build the shop, put what you want in it, and deal with it when you're ready. Just make certain you put your dads truck project in there:thumbsup:

Time later, when that "new" shop is cleared, it should only add value to your property, and you can afford it now.

 

[/pine]

I think in many cases if you could get honest answers from the deceased parents they would most likely want whatever they leave to be as much help to someone else as possible...sentimental items I'm sure many would what them passed down but everyday items not so much...

...If you hire someone that comes in and offers so much for this and so much for that as long as they take everything...a lot of the stuff will end up in a landfill...
SO...the easiest way to decide what to do with stuff is just ask yourself..."what would they want"...and most of the time the answer will be they would want their stuff to be put to use by someone that can use it...

IMO it is better to give it to thrift stores (many run by churches for local support groups) etc. than to pay someone to haul it to the dump...

As for tools...it's the same thing...most craftsmen would like to see their tools being used by someone/anyone over sitting around collecting dust or sold for scrap etc...

 

[fried1765]

If you dont get rid of the stuff, you are just passing the problem on to your children. Is that what you want to do?

YES.... absolutely!!

 

[Industrial Toys]

Kind of to change the direction slightly. It's why I dislike cremation so much. To destroy the one real physical thing we own, disturbs me. , Old Aunt Louloos Tea Pot is so cherished, but heck, just go and incinerate her body. Rotting in the ground or not, I like the idea of something resembling the dearly beloved, lying beneath my feet.