OK, I'm totally freaked out and need help....

[_RaT_]

Apply liberally as needed:

Thanks Dartman, thats what I was thinking. The chlorox and the liberal part.

 

[_RaT_]

Sorry, 3 kids, 2 grandkids, and I have no problem speaking what is on my mind to any of them... So tell me, If you don't tell them it is wrong, impolite or just gross(as well as what is correct, polite and good), how are they going to learn?

Thats great Ron, you have what I think they would call a great command presence. I have not been able to build to nearly the level you are obviously at. Perhaps someday. Its certainly a good quality. With 2 brothers, 7 sisters and 57,000 nieces and nephews on my side alone, I have yet to get to that level. Perhaps you should write a book!

 

[browns40]

How many parents we got here anyway?

Ron & ByronBob--right on--kids are going to do what their fresh little minds find to be stimulating... their world is focused on themselves, and what goes on outside of them is of very little interest until they get older.

Whether that behavior is masturbating, examining their orifices (nose included), bumping their head on a wall, spinning around in circles... A child will not know what is or is not socially appropriate until they have been socialized... if it never happens, they grow into socially inappropriate adults, free to breed another generation of the same...

As adults our role is no longer to tee-hee on the playground, it's to set the course and make darn well sure our kids are staying in line... when we don't do it, it is left to the peer group, teachers, TV, internet... It's also our job to step in where weak, ineffective parenting has allowed kids to drift, because a stranger's intervention makes a bigger impression for those kids than the background noise their parents have been providing.

Agreed: picking & eating, that is nasty... the adult steps in there though... that 15 seconds would have been of help to the kid instead of this.......

 

[RollTideRam]

I think you should have made fun of the kid and let him know its wrong to eat buggers. Next time you see him, ask if still doing it to keep him from starting back.

 

[Highbeam]

I have 2 daughters and we tell them not to even pick their noses if we catch them. We humiliate them a little with it knowing that at best they will keep it behind closed doors. It's not like you can let that stuff accumulate. Secretly though, I only really care that they don't eat it. I also get the heaves when I see other kids do that. I think to myself, it must be salty or maybe rehydrate into gooey snot. Regardless, it crosses the line.

In my house I would have barked at them right then. Quit doing that!

 

[RobJ]

I have 2 daughters and we tell them not to even pick their noses if we catch them. We humiliate them a little with it knowing that at best they will keep it behind closed doors. It's not like you can let that stuff accumulate. Secretly though, I only really care that they don't eat it. I also get the heaves when I see other kids do that. I think to myself, it must be salty or maybe rehydrate into gooey snot. Regardless, it crosses the line.

In my house I would have barked at them right then. Quit doing that!

Not sure its ever a good time for a parent to humilliate their OWN kid. JMHO No problem humilliating someone elses.

But you are correct, I bet 100% of the folks here have done some nose mining, especially while on the tractor. I mean so you are out in a dusty field and you are building one. To attached to blow out. What do ya do, drive back to the house for a tissue? A hanky?? My dad carried those, not something I'd like to carry around in mypocket!! NAh you dig it out and give it a flick!!

 

[Highbeam]

To be clear, I consider a lot of things to be "humiliating". We're not talking about locking the kid outside in her undies or anything. Singling her out and correcting behavior among other folks is not likely to be met with any arguing.