Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.

[Runner]

So sorry to hear. She's in a better place now.

 

[Sigarms]

Month-in-law has passed as predicted by the healthcare professionals. We are moving her dad into a different type of care building within the campus taking him out of the memory care.

Sorry to hear that news.

Sunday morning coming home from Church, found my dad in the basement on the floor (he fell). Called the ambulance and had him at the hospital by 11AM.

He broke his femur, and Sunday night they were talking about taking him to rehabilitation (knew my dad wouldn't want to do that as he thought his life kind of sucked living with us and needed our help for a lot of things). That Tuesday morning at 4:30AM he passed in the hospital at age 90.

 

[Hay Dude]

Sorry to hear that news.

Sunday morning coming home from Church, found my dad in the basement on the floor (he fell). Called the ambulance and had him at the hospital by 11AM.

He broke his femur, and Sunday night they were talking about taking him to rehabilitation (knew my dad wouldn't want to do that as he thought his life kind of sucked living with us and needed our help for a lot of things). That Tuesday morning at 4:30AM he passed in the hospital at age 90.

Oh that’s really sad. Did this just happen?

 

[kenmbz]

our condolences, even when told it's soon, it comes as a shock.

 

[Sigarms]

Oh that’s really sad. Did this just happen?

No, August 16, 2022

I'm blessed that my father got to live with us the last 4 years of his life.

First 3 weren't bad, but he fractured his back at 86 which finally made him to decide to live with us (we bought the house in 2005 in hopes he could move in with us but he didn't want to because he was having fun fly fishing and golfing).

Sad, yes, but the last 3 years of his life was still pretty good, he stopped driving on his own at 88 and he let his grandkids drive him around in his car.

Every parents death should hurt, but in the grand scheme of things, my dad went quick and he was ready to go to be with my mom in his last year with us (added not one day in a assisted living home). My dad had a GREAT life and he went quick. We should all be so blessed. That's why I'm really not sad when I think of him.

I was blessed to spend the last night with my mom in 2002 flying up from NC. She made me promise to look after my dad (she knew she wouldn't make it) as the entire family didn't think he'd live another year without her. Kept my promise to my mom which is another reason I know my parents would have been happy with the smart arse teen they were stuck with for a long time LOL

 

[Topzide]

@ArlyA and @Sigarms

Sorry to hear the news. Not the greatest time of the year to be dealing with these issues. Wishing you and your families the best.
Let the light shine brightly at these dark moments in life! Prayers are being sent for the two of you and yours!

 

[Sigarms]

@ArlyA and @Sigarms

Sorry to hear the news. Not the greatest time of the year to be dealing with these issues. Wishing you and your families the best.
Let the light shine brightly at these dark moments in life! Prayers are being sent for the two of you and yours!

As mentioned, my dad was a couple of years ago.

End of the day, be it you're a believer in a higher power or not, we all leave this world at some time.

Hopefully your parents give you fond memories. We are all blessed when our loved ones leave this world if that is the case.

That said, had a cousin die of Leukemia in her 40's and a uncle die of lung cancer. Was with them in the hospital and wouldn't wish that on ANYONE. That said, their suffering finally ended when they passed, so in some aspects, look at that as a blessing as well.

There is something to be said for going out quick with a heart attack when you still can function at 100%, as morbid as that sounds.

I just find it interesting in my and my wife's family how some are afraid to talk about death when it's going to happen sooner or later...

 

[Hay Dude]

No, August 16, 2022

I'm blessed that my father got to live with us the last 4 years of his life.

First 3 weren't bad, but he fractured his back at 86 which finally made him to decide to live with us (we bought the house in 2005 in hopes he could move in with us but he didn't want to because he was having fun fly fishing and golfing).

Sad, yes, but the last 3 years of his life was still pretty good, he stopped driving on his own at 88 and he let his grandkids drive him around in his car.

Every parents death should hurt, but in the grand scheme of things, my dad went quick and he was ready to go to be with my mom in his last year with us (added not one day in a assisted living home). My dad had a GREAT life and he went quick. We should all be so blessed. That's why I'm really not sad when I think of him.

I was blessed to spend the last night with my mom in 2002 flying up from NC. She made me promise to look after my dad (she knew she wouldn't make it) as the entire family didn't think he'd live another year without her. Kept my promise to my mom which is another reason I know my parents would have been happy with the smart arse teen they were stuck with for a long time LOL

I had similar with my mom & dad. My dad went fairly fast (1 month) from basically puttering around the house to being gone. A very tough man, but his heart gave out. My mom was very healthy and was able to take care of him and I helped (my brother & sister live further away). That was in 2011. My mom went on another 5 years and developed cancer. They gave her a year, and she made it about 11 months. I took care of her most of the way. The radiation delivered to her spine, where the cancer was, weakened to bones to the point where she could barely walk.
She died on my Fathers birthday (New Years Eve) in a hospital bed we had set up for her in a first floor room of my house. She went from laughing & talking to being gone in 24 hours and commented to us several times she had a wonderful life.
I was very close with my parents and they were good parents.
I will never forget my mom saying “I hope to live long enough to see the flowers of spring”
This time of year tough for me as it brings back memories of her living her last Christmas with us the Christmas of 2014. Even 10 years after.

 

[MossRoad]

Month-in-law has passed as predicted by the healthcare professionals. We are moving her dad into a different type of care building within the campus taking him out of the memory care.

Please accept my condolences ArlyA. You are a good son in law.

 

[dodge man]

Sorry to hear that Arly. I’m glad you’re there for your wife.