Some people should stay in town!

Gary_in_Indiana · Nov 5, 2004

Please understand, guys... I'm not anti-marriage at all. I was married and liked it. We had two wonderful children from that union who have become truly outstanding young adults. Neither of us could be more proud. We are still very much friends. Heck, when she remarried a year or so ago, I even got them a vacation package as a wedding gift.

I'm not unalterably opposed to being married again, either. I'm just enjoying some of the things I'd be hard pressed to do if I were married (at least without severe consequences). I mean...think about it...how many married guys could leave for work one morning and come home with a bulldozer without any explanation? /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif

I guess I just try to be happy with whatever cards I have in my hand at the moment. Right now, I'm just really enjoying playing this hand. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/tongue.gif /forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif

Bob_Skurka · Nov 5, 2004

I mean...think about it...how many married guys could leave for work one morning and come home with a bulldozer without any explanation?


For the record, I can. But I only do that stuff when the lovely Mrs_Bob is out of town /forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif

OkeeDon · Nov 6, 2004

I mean...think about it...how many married guys could leave for work one morning and come home with a bulldozer without any explanation? 

I could bring it home and even keep it, but it would require a rationalization. Fortunately, that's no problem for me, because I'm pretty sure I fit in the 99th percentile of rationalizers...

As to which is better, married or single, I passed my 39th anniversary without yet coming to a solid conclusion. The best I can say is that I've tried marriage, so now I'd have to try single to see which is better. I think I can also say that if someting happened that left me alone, I'd stay alone. However, for me, it's probably a case if inertia -- it's easier to stay married and occasionally have to rationalize the things I bring home. I will say I can't imagine anyone else I'd rather hang around with...not exactly a blazing statement of torrid love, but she seems happy with it...

Bird · Nov 6, 2004

( passed my 39th anniversary without yet coming to a solid conclusion )

I've passed my 39th, too, and have no doubt that I prefer married life, even if it is a little more complicated. /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

Lazy · Nov 6, 2004

Hi

( passed my 39th anniversary without yet coming to a solid conclusion )

Passed my 40th and my conclusion is where did the years go. but I have always bought what i wanted when I wanted it from day 1. Sometimes I had to listen to a few minutes of #$#%#$% did you buy that. I would do it all over again.

Charlie.

Gary_in_Indiana · Nov 6, 2004

Guys, I'm genuinely happy for all of you. I'm sure I'd be just as happy if I were still married but I'm not. My only intent in posting that line was as a commentary on the hundreds and hundreds of times I've read about 'getting approval from "the CFO" before (whatever).' It always strikes me as so odd.

I can even say that it would have when I was married, too. I never had a problem hearing about anything I ever brought home. It helped that I made money on the stuff I brought home. /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif Besides, anything I brought home that she liked she got to keep and drive while I sold whatever she had been driving. You have to admit, it's pretty tough to find something about which to complain in that deal. /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif

BigDave · Nov 6, 2004

( you get a "Right to Farm" pamplet )

I live next to a farm, but I never got one of those pamphlets. No worries though. One the rare occassion that I hear the tractor, I usually take a stroll to the back of our property to see what their riding. We do a have a contriversial ordnance under consideration in our county (Carroll) that states no 4 wheelers or dirt bikes may operate within 300ft of a property line during anytime of the day or night. There's quite a few people upset. We have 4 wheelers that race along the edge of the farm at wide open throttle on the weekends. No problems there either, since neither tractors nor 4 wheelers compare to the sound the fire whistle on the otherside of the farm makes. We knew about the whistle before we moved in, so the other sounds are insignificant.

stephan · Nov 7, 2004

Sorry guys but to get back on subject a bit I have both types of neighbors. One, a couple who are retired teachers who to describe them as a PITA is a slur on pain and arses. They brought the suburban attitude with them and for the first couple of years we were friends. I won't bore you with the 7 years of pain since but there are a coupe of things I have learnt. Always be right in law. I have been to local court twice with these guys and have won twice. Don't play their game. You probably can't win nor have the experience.

Smile, wave, talk to her about the weather it will drive her insane, just don't bite. Appear ignorant like you don't understand what she means. She rings complaining about lack of sleep cause you been working, say hello wait for a break in the abuse then say "Well must be off nice talking to you." <clink>. These sort of people NEED to vent so if you can cut them short they may well implode. The thing I hated most about my situation is they kept trying to drag me down to their level of childishness, and I hated them for it. I've moved on and I was lucky I didn't buckle and they are lucky their fences are up and their pet cattle live.

The other neighbor is an old time farmer who doesn't like "blow-in's" like us. He won't fix the fence, lets his animals roam where they will then won't come for them, steals firewood off our place etc. He has a reputation in the area as a crook and someone not to cross but I still went up to his place and warned him off my place (firm but diplomatic) and he seems to have stayed away.

As the saying goes "The best thing between you and your neighbor is a good high fence".

Birdhunter1 · Nov 7, 2004

Where I live is far enough outside of town that it is Farm Country and there is no disputing that. Look in any direction and you'll see a hayfield, woods, grain or cows. A "right to farm" pamphlet would be funny, no offense but if I had to live in a place where these things existed I think I'd have to move. No 4 wheelers within 300 feet of property lines at anytime, I think I'd be in jail for life on that one. A 4 wheeler is what I use to build fence. Taking a guess Dave you live in a more urban setting or in the Northeast.

DannyD · Nov 7, 2004

I mean...think about it...how many married guys could leave for work one morning and come home with a bulldozer without any explanation? >>>>

I could too, no problem at all. I can afford this easily, I just could not afford the aftermath of it, as in she has access to the money also.
I love being married, but if I was single again, I would be like a kid in a candy store