Every manufacturer advertises their vehicle's "max towing capacity" as what it is... the "max" capacity. That 2500 has a max towing capacity of 10,000 lbs. The "fine print" will tell you that you will need to achieve this limit by way of using a WDH, and if you do not, you will not be able to tow a trailer with a GTWR of over 5,000 lbs. That number is NOT the max towing capacity.
If the max tongue weight were 700 lbs, the max trailer weight without a WDH would be 7,000 lbs. It is EXACTLY a factor of 10 between the two because of the max tongue weight and the fact that it must represent no less than 10% of the GTWR.
I understand that a limit was exceeded, I understand that "weakest link in the chain" notion. I've said this before, and I will say it again... I'm not trying to tell anyone that the numbers advertised by the manufacturer are wrong... I am merely trying to help people understand WHY the numbers without a WDH come out as they do. I am in complete agreement with Wolfpack2 and the statement about adhering to guidelines.
The comment about a WDH being there to "change the center of gravity" isn't really correct. It's referred to as a "weight distributing" hitch for a reason... It's purpose is to distribute some of the tongue weight of the trailer to axles other than the rear axle of the tow vehicle. As a result, the center of gravity will change, but that isn't its sole purpose.
I can't speak for DiamondPilot, but I have a '11 Tundra with the integrated hitch. Maybe the comments you're thinking of are mine.