You can get diaphragm or bladder (bag) tanks in either steel or fiberglass. Either fiberglass or steel a diaphragm is better than a bag tank. The diaphragm doesn't touch the sides of the tank as it moves up and down like a bag tank does.
But diaphragms and bladders are both susceptable to failure from flexing back and forth as the pump cycles on and off.
Even a large 80 gallon size pressure tank only holds about 22 gallons of water between 45 and 65 PSI. This is why the pump still has to come on when you take a shower. But with a large tank the pressure is decreasing from 65 to 45 for almost the entire shower. Only in the last couple of minuites after the pressure drops to 45 and the pump is started does the shower pressure increase back up to 65 PSI. With a smaller pressure tank this fluctuation in pressure from 65 to 45 may happen several times during a shower.
As was stated eariler, pumps like to run 24/7, starting is hard on a pump/motor, and starting against a load is even harder. So the fewer starts the better. The way to decrease the number of starts is to increase the run time of the pump. It is better for the pump to run for as long as you are in the shower, than it is for the pump to cycle on off even twice, much less multiple times. The longer the shower and the smaller the tank the more times the pump will cycle.
As for starting a pump against a load, it is just the opposite of what you may think. Starting at the low pressure of 45 PSI without any restriction is the bigest load and the hardest way for a pump to start.
Starting a pump against a closed or almost closed valve, as with a CSV, gives a mechanical soft start to the pump and decreases the starting load or amperage.
25+ years ago I would have also said the bigger the pressure tank the better. But those days are gone as there are much better ways of controlling a pump. There are several ways to get constant pressure to the house, and eliminate cycling while using a very small tank.
There are variable speed pumps and countless types of tankless controls, but I believe (and of course I am a little biased) the simple nature of a constant pressure valve is best.