Summarizing the apparent answer to my original question and a few other observations and speculations:
1) It would seem that the ISO-A in the -10 size may be the most common standard for agricultural equipment. The -10 size (nominally 1/2") seems to be rated anywhere from 12 to 16 gpm flow depending on family and brand, plenty for our needs.
2) The size of the connector is not necessarily related to the threaded port on the back. The -10s are available with anything from 1/4" to 3/4" plumbing connections, but 1/2" may be the most common.
3) It might be interesting for everyone to measure the diameter of the nose of their male coupling just so we can see what sizes we all have.
4) Pricing can range from a high of almost $40 a set to as low as $10 a set suggesting that it pays to shop around. I would guess there is also some difference in quality from one brand to another. A tractor dealer is probably about the worst place to get hydraulic fittings from a cost standpoint
5) For some reason, ISO B connectors seem to be less expensive than ISO A, despite the apparent fact that they are not used as much in ag applications. It might be interesting to get the ISO standards and see how the performance ratings and specs compare, but the price difference may just be market demand driven.
6) One posting elsewhere pointed out that the flush face style are so clean and nice that he changed his whole system over to them despite the fact that he knew it would make his system incompatible with others. These connectors are noted for their almost complete lack of fluid leakage and air ingress when connecting and disconnecting. I have to admit that is appealing.
7) There are differences from one brand and model to another in terms of the O-ring material, most being Buta-N. Damage to the O-ring seems to be the most likely cause of leakage. High quality O-rings might hold up better.
8) Probably the most important thing from a care standpoint is to try to keep these connectors clean and protected from damage. Dirt and nicks or scratches will inevitably lead to leaks. Someone suggested a slick trick using rubber balloons with the end cut off as dirt and dust "boots" stretched over the mated connectors.
9) I may not worry about bulkhead mounting. I liked the look of a TNT installation (I forget whose now) where the female quick disconnects were screwed right into the ports of the joystick selective control valve which was mounted on the ROP. This left the connectors pointing right down toward the link cylinders, eliminating the need for a bulkhead panel.
10) Conclusion?: Probably I will shop around and find a good price on some -10 ISO-A from a good brand. But the flush-face style are still tempting for being almost drip free.