KICK, I pretty much agree. We have two diesels, a 2006 Ram/ISB and a 2005 Jeep Liberty CRD which has a 2.8L I-4 VM Motori diesel engine. The Ram is great except for the 12 quart oil changes and the awful oil filter location. I would buy the Ram again. Note that the ISB put in the Ram in 2006 doesn't have EGR or a VNT, so there go two significant maintenance/repair concerns and the oil stays much cleaner too.
The Liberty CRD does have EGR and a VNT. The VNT is not a problem (it's not part of EGR on this design) but the EGR is a problem feature, and I already had one failure around 21k miles. Thanks to the EGR there is also a severe soot level in the oil, and the oil burn-off is faster than it should be. I have found synthetic Rotella-T 5W-40, which has a CI-4+ rating, to be a huge improvement over the recommended oil. This engine only takes 6.4 quarts of oil but it has to be synthetic and DCX specified 0W-40, which is extra pricey and not a great choice (old CF rating). The stealership charged me $12.75 PER QUART at the last oil change, which is pretty much the last non-warranty work they will ever do for me, resulting in over $100 for just the oil change. At that rate the fuel efficiency benefit is gone. I also do oil changes myself when I have time and they aren't as bad at roughly $45 for oil and filter, but that's not exactly cheap.
We pull a horse trailer with the Ram fairly often, and while the diesel might not justify itself in pure dollars it does in overall utility and ease of pulling, especially when I hear reports of 5mpg pulling loads with the Hemi version. But I wouldn't buy a 2007+ diesel for the same task, not when their prices went up, EGR was added to all, and at least the GM trucks for 2007+ offer outstanding gasoline options (6.0L with VVT and the 6-speed auto, anyone?). On the other hand I think this is a growing pain like for gasoline engines in 1973, and in a few years diesels will probably be better in cost and reliability than the 2007/2008 models are looking.