Mine is like this. I don't mind so much. Our deal at home is I make the mess and she cleans up when I'm done (this doesn't include heavy demo debris which I'm still responsible for). I figured out a long time ago, that I save a lot by doing myself, and figured out that I could then justify tools on each project and she doesn't complain. Therefore, 20+ years later, I have every tool I can think of for that "I just might need a ____" situation and she doesn't complain about it at all.
The downside; yes, lots of extra work for me and now that I have the tools I have no excuses...
I'm flipping a house right now as my 2nd job. Working with my brother and this is our 2nd flip with 9 years in between. Economy is finally right again for it, so we decided to take a change again. I wasn't even a week into this one (which will likely be 7 or more months of nights and weekends) and she's already talking about "our" next flip and future flips. Meanwhile, she's at home each night and weekend doing her thing!!! ;-)