Would you help your soon-to-be-ex wife or not?

[ljohnson778]

JD, I wish you well, my friend. I know you'll do the right thing.

 

[kw22614]

The thing to ask is what would you do if a good friend of over 20 years would ask the same thing? Do what is right for you, don't let other people's actions dictate how you act. If you're a decent helpful person then do it because YOU are. Don't not do it because of her actions. Been in this situation before and I helped, matter of fact, planned, packed and did most of the work myself. I missed her greatly but was true to myself, and might even have left a small bug in her ear as to whether she made the right decision. Was a long time ago and been with my new wife now almost 25 yrs - still happy!
Hope it all works out and given enough time - it always does. Sincerely wishing you a Merry Christmas and happy and adventurous new year.

 

[Cat_Driver]

Oh come on, Be a real man and help her move, and anything else she needs till one of you is in the grave.

Who gives a hoot who's did what, it's OVER, and this is a woman you loved and respected at some point, finish the relationship on a high note not acting like a twelve year old. Be the better person.

There a term called COWBOY UP, and it's sure fitting here.

 

[sodamo]

Truly sorry to hear of your situation. Of course none of us can tell you what to do, but I suspect you'll take the high road, even if mostly for your own peace of mind.

Been married going on 30 years to my current wife. Have come close to losing her twice, once in '98 by a horrid accident and again in 2006 by cancer, so I have definitely have had to think about what that would mean, and I just can't imagine life without her.

My first marriage lasted 11 years and while some might describe that divorce as somewhat amiable, I also came to understand why some end tragically. I have not seen nor talked to her since before it was final. Inspite of what was bad, I feel I also lost a friend, a friend that 30 years later I still miss at times. Strange in a way I guess. So while the bad times are indeed a memory, I prefer to think the good times were more defining and it's an aspect of these that I miss. Kinda funny in a way, but I know that my present wife and the ex would likely be good friends, but of course they have never met and I doubt they ever will.

Best to you, whatever you decide.

David Sent from my iPad using TractorByNet

 

[Steve_Miller]

David,
We were to Hawaii at the end of October on a cruise. Did some tourist stuff and remembered them saying this one island was called the big island. I would have been really interested to sit down and talk to a local about living on one of these islands. I know power costs are high but offset by other things. we did the Volcano Park and around Hilo a bit.


Steve

 

[windy acers]

Truly sorry to hear of your situation. Of course none of us can tell you what to do, but I suspect you'll take the high road, even if mostly for your own peace of mind.

Been married going on 30 years to my current wife. Have come close to losing her twice, once in '98 by a horrid accident and again in 2006 by cancer, so I have definitely have had to think about what that would mean, and I just can't imagine life without her.

My first marriage lasted 11 years and while some might describe that divorce as somewhat amiable, I also came to understand why some end tragically. I have not seen nor talked to her since before it was final. Inspite of what was bad, I feel I also lost a friend, a friend that 30 years later I still miss at times. Strange in a way I guess. So while the bad times are indeed a memory, I prefer to think the good times were more defining and it's an aspect of these that I miss. Kinda funny in a way, but I know that my present wife and the ex would likely be good friends, but of course they have never met and I doubt they ever will.

Best to you, whatever you decide.

David Sent from my iPad using TractorByNet

Your last paragraph would be my words exatlly

 

[sodamo]

David,
We were to Hawaii at the end of October on a cruise. Did some tourist stuff and remembered them saying this one island was called the big island. I would have been really interested to sit down and talk to a local about living on one of these islands. I know power costs are high but offset by other things. we did the Volcano Park and around Hilo a bit.

Steve

Bummer, would have loved meeting another TBN er. We are only 20 miles from Hilo.

Yes, power is pricey, makes me appreciate being off grid.

David Sent from my iPad using TractorByNet

 

[birddog0304]

David,
Would you mind elaborating about your off grid system?
How long have you been doing this?
Brand of system?
Power storage and power source?
I am very interested in off grid systems and appreciate different views.
Thanks

Sorry to hijack the thread, I should have pm'ed

 

[sodamo]

David,
Would you mind elaborating about your off grid system?
How long have you been doing this?
Brand of system?
Power storage and power source?
I am very interested in off grid systems and appreciate different views.
Thanks

Sorry to hijack the thread, I should have pm'ed

Sent you a PM. Willing to share with anyone interested.

David Sent from my iPad using TractorByNet

 

[murphy1244]

COWBOY UP?