I left this thread open on the computer and the wife read it here is her response which she said I should post:
"Ha! This is too funny. Guys, obviously Rob's wife has happened onto this thread and did not like what she read. This is not Rob...this is his wife!!! I just happened on this thread as well when I sat down to use my husband's computer. Don't get sucked into this non-sense. I don't always get my husbandç—´ love for his tractor, hunting, etc. and I am certain he doesn't get me. We are two very different individuals--as we should be-- that balance each other. If we didn't want someone different in our life, we would have stayed single. The beauty of our 15 year marriage is we accept that we are different! It's like a treasure hunt! I look forward to what I will find out about this wonderful man next! Light-hearted joking keeps a marriage healthy and interesting."
You're missing the point, it's not that we accept or don't accept that we are different ,it's that we understand each other.
Everyone on the planet is different! Geeze, think about what you're saying. And it's not about "should be different", people simply are different to one degree or another. Individuals require certain common grounds in order for a relationship to flourish. Nancy and I are highly compatible, spiritually, politically and nutritionally. Within those aspects we have different perspectives but basically we have a common ground.
She didn't happen on to anything, she couldn't care less. I say what I want, go where I want and do what I want, so does she. Obviously you should be able to tell from my posts that I have an opinion, why would you think it stops here? And you'll notice I don't call her 'my wife', I call her Nancy. That's because she's her own person, I own
my tractor but she's not a possession, she's an individual and before I see her as Nancy I see her as an individual, a unique person unto herself. She has her own ideas, belief system, value system, dreams and desires. Hopefully I add to that and she adds to mine but what's always there is mutual respect and trust.
For some reason you don't seem to think we laugh, joke, tease or have heated debates. We do. What we don't do is sit around with our friends and talk about how we don't understand each other or each other's motivations, needs or desires. That's because we understand each other. Get it?
It doesn't mean we have a boring relationship, we don't, we have an exciting relationship.
Watch your relationship, if you have a lot of little peeves it means there are big problems. Go talk to a counselor if you don't believe me. Go ask a trained counselor about what I just said and see the answers you get.
Rob