Would you help your soon-to-be-ex wife or not?

[Soundguy]

the faster they are out the better.. then you can change the locks..

 

[QRTRHRS]

When my ex took up with her girlfriend, she asked me to move her stuff. I brought home a real paycheck, she was an "artist" working under the table. The same day I told her I was divorcing her, the bank had okayed a loan on a new property that I had had surveyed, inspected, etc.

I refused. Actually, she had left me a message which I did not return. Anyway, not sure who loaded the U-Haul truck which her "girlfriend" was driving but they left the house we had and made a right and a right.

Whoops! You cannot clear that bridge with any kind of U-Haul. Not sure if it was sheer stupidity, devine intervention, karma or what? Truthfully, I did not gloat, I might have felt badly for a moment, then shrugged it off with an o'well.

 

[zzvyb6]

I did and would advise you to do the same because a few years from now you might find out you still need each other. I can understand why she took off. Your previous posts about (not) going out on the town together pretty much sealed the deal for you as I see it. My guess is that she will find someone to party with pretty soon. If you are retired, she gets 1/2 of whatever your pension added up to while you were married and probably also your life insurance benefit(s). You will owe her health care for a year, too, by Michigan law. (Maybe she qualifies for Medicaid ?).

We didn't have kids together, but her daughter and I are very close. And, I am taking good care of the ex because she now has some major health problems and requires assisted living.

Meanwhile, my GF lives here, gets along with the step daughter wonderfully, is a great homemaker, works on-line and is a beautiful person inside and out.

She has no interest in operating tractors, loves my dogs as if they were her own and is a blessing to all who know here. Now YOU get to search for someone similar. As you approach old age, its paramount to have someone around, if nothing more than to call 911.

 

[tcreeley]

If you once cared for her, live up to who you were then. You won't regret living up to the best of yourself. We are here to help each other. She has no other person to count on- fill it then amicably say goodbye.

 

[Lou66]

Do what is right and fair...

 

[murphy1244]

Your "Deere" showed no link. Roy's "Deere" showed a link.

Does Roy have the touch...........?:laughing:

Sorry to OP for messing with your thread, My pc all fixed now had some bug.

 

[BIG DOOLEY]

That is your call JD....
All I can tell you is I would be very nice to her right up until and after the papers are signed and recorded.
Should she change her mind and get a lawyer....... Just be nice till things are finalized.

First of all, I think that it would be beneficial to you by helping her and providing this service. In this way, you can have her personally sign for all items delivered and the condition that they were in. I'm sincerely sorry for your current situation. This comes from the "Very Bottom Of My HEART And SOUL". Best wishes. BTW, Life goes on. Please remain strong.

Sorry to your about your situation.
My parents divorced over 10 years ago in their 60's.

They are only a few miles apart from each other and we all still get together monthly 2-6 times.
My parents will sit at our houses and visit for hours at b-day parties, holidays, cookouts......
my dad will help her do small chores at her house time to time and help each other out when sick or when they have hospital stay.
My mom still bakes for my dad and seek each other for advise....
Just because it's over doesn't mean it's over.
Life long relationships and friendships are sometimes revealed in many special ways including extended family marrige brought you.
Keep your chin up and be the person you "really are" and not the person that you are feeling emotionally right now if you know what I mean.
I wish you both the very best this x-mas and more each passing day.

 

[JDgreen227]

Sorry to OP for messing with your thread, My pc all fixed now had some bug.

No need to apologize, you didn't mess up my thread. I am truthfully grateful to everyone who responded and gave their unbiased and non-opinionated :laughing: :laughing: input on my query. Terms of my divorce inclusive of personal property division have already been written, notarized, and filed with the court of record so there is little chance said terms can be changed now. Original query was made of the members here for ONE major reason: For as long as I have belonged to TBN, whenever I had a question or needed input and advice about ANYTHING, I inquired here because the members have always been remarkably supportive and helpful with a vast store of experience and a wealth of knowledge to share with me. You guys have NO IDEA how much I have appreciated that.

From the posts here, I guess I should help my soon-to-be-ex for several reasons: It gets her out of here sooner, it makes me look like a nice guy, it lets me keep tabs on what is going out, and as Lou66 summed it up best: "Do what is right and fair"

Thanks so much, guys...you are a wonderful and understanding group. THANKS TO ALL.

 

[radioman]

Just saw this thread this morning and I gotta say I was shocked at first till I read the whole thread about some sort of a link. to murphy - hopefully whatever happened to your pc wasnt from me -- if it was it was unintentional . I had no idea.

SO JDgreene227 - whats your plan? are you going to help or just stand back? inquiring minds wants to know .

 

[Thomas]

Sorry for the turn of events.
You gotta go w/your gut feelings.