Are my parents to strict?

[KubotainNH]

Thank you very much for the idea about writing a note. I really like that and think it would be better. I'll think about it.

This is a good idea if you have trouble getting your thoughts out verbally. My wife and I sometimes use notes because we can't get what we want to say out verbally and in a good way. Are you a few months away from graduating? If so wait it out and try to expand your network of contacts in the field you want to go into. I'm homeschooling my youngest who is 17, it's not easy on his or my side but regular school was not working for him. He does have plenty of ways to get out in the world like scouting and we want him to get a job so he can see what is out there. Parenting is a tough job.

 

[jhasafety1]

You need to live by your parents rules and learn from it. Being a volunteer fire chief I can tell you being a firefighter is living by very strict rules. I want to know that my firefighters will follow direction without second guessing. You will be a better person for what not always getting your way. Don't totally agree with the cell phone snooping, but if it was a condition of having the privilage then learn to live with it. One day you will look back and reliaze it wasn't all bad.

 

[jerrybob]

He's already following your advice, very well:thumbsup:

I've read this entire post and see a can do/will do attitude throughout combined with a prudent sense of timing, which is so key to success in any life decision. Excellent decisions are always founded on gathering good information, weighing the pros and cons of various actions, planning the realistic steps toward an objective. He's doing this right now and has been incredibly open with facts regarding his situation, his honest feelings about it and his forward looking goals. I haven't seen any self pity or whines. I do see preparation for decisions that will better HIS life and the fact that he IS doing this means he IS growing and IS moving. I think we all applaud his approach and his decision to stay where he is and complete his high school education.

I wish him well, and encourage him that when he makes a step forward it be along a planned path that has realistic chances of leading him to his goal. An impulsive step into the unknown without resources and a place to land is fraught with danger and unpleasant consequences. He knows this and is actively planning his options and weighing their consequences. So should we all.:applause::applause:

I wish him well also and the idea of graduating is a good one. Once done......move forward. Excellent decisions are few an far between. I would suggest just make a good decision and...if it does not turn out as expected....adjust and continue his progress. Weighing the pros and cons for any decision is always good advice.....so long as it is done in a timely manner and not used as a crutch for delaying the inevitable.

 

[powerpace]

You say you are home schooled. Is that a accredited course approved through the state you live in? It sounds as if you are being programmed to live your parents lives and not yours. Their thoughts their Church etc..... The idea you have about the Firefighter/Paramedic training is good. I believe this is something I commented on before. The problem I see with the scholarships is they really pay for very little. You will need to work and support yourself. Your parents are probably going to discourage you in any endeavor you choose that doe's not fit their controlling your life.
Have you talked to any Armed Forces recruiter? Find out what they have to offer, before you enroll in college. You may be better off enlisting and getting the military to train you if possible. No guarantee. What I do know is getting a degree in your choice of study is no guarantee that you will be doing that in the military. That's a fact.
Good luck and get out.

 

[powerpace]

On the other hand are we (meaning TBN members) being played?????

 

[Cub124]

You say you are home schooled. Is that a accredited course approved through the state you live in? It sounds as if you are being programmed to live your parents lives and not yours. Their thoughts their Church etc..... The idea you have about the Firefighter/Paramedic training is good. I believe this is something I commented on before. The problem I see with the scholarships is they really pay for very little. You will need to work and support yourself. Your parents are probably going to discourage you in any endeavor you choose that doe's not fit their controlling your life.
Have you talked to any Armed Forces recruiter? Find out what they have to offer, before you enroll in college. You may be better off enlisting and getting the military to train you if possible. No guarantee. What I do know is getting a degree in your choice of study is no guarantee that you will be doing that in the military. That's a fact.
Good luck and get out.

It has good accreditations, I checked that out before I signed up for this school and I checked with the college I want to go to, to make sure they accept it. I am not playing anyone, I seriously am dealing with this and I have been truthful and honest in everything I have said. I'm not the attention seeking type. I just wanted advice, which I have gotten. I have gotten better and more advice than I had ever imagined, and I thank everyone who has taken the time to give it to me.

 

[texasjohn]

NO, in a word, NO.

True, scams are easy over the net, but this isn't one. He joined TBN in 2010 and has participated in several threads between then and now. Actually one of the very youngest TBN members I am aware of, if not the youngest.

I was home schooled before home schooling was cool. Lived in a foreign country. Course materials came in the mail, including lesson plans, books, tests, needed materials for special projects, etc. Full accreditation with US schools, certificates of completion by grade level. Tests were taken and sent back to the company for grading. Teacher wrote extensive comments and critiques and explanations on them and returned with a grade. Math, English, Science...all the usual stuff except things like music, PE, etc. that require human direction every moment of the activity. When I got back to the States, I was clearly in the top 10% of my peers.

Home schooling can be many things, but is best when a organized, planned program is followed with parental oversight and guidance. Parents do not make up the lesson plans but do assist/support where they have the ability. He says he has done his home work regarding accreditation and his program will be accepted by his chosen college.

I believe him.

On the other hand are we (meaning TBN members) being played?????

 

[MossRoad]

NO, in a word, NO.

True, scams are easy over the net, but this isn't one. He joined TBN in 2010 and has participated in several threads between then and now. Actually one of the very youngest TBN members I am aware of, if not the youngest.

I was home schooled before home schooling was cool. Lived in a foreign country. Course materials came in the mail, including lesson plans, books, tests, needed materials for special projects, etc. Full accreditation with US schools, certificates of completion by grade level. Tests were taken and sent back to the company for grading. Teacher wrote extensive comments and critiques and explanations on them and returned with a grade. Math, English, Science...all the usual stuff except things like music, PE, etc. that require human direction every moment of the activity. When I got back to the States, I was clearly in the top 10% of my peers.

Home schooling can be many things, but is best when a organized, planned program is followed with parental oversight and guidance. Parents do not make up the lesson plans but do assist/support where they have the ability. He says he has done his home work regarding accreditation and his program will be accepted by his chosen college.

I believe him.

Yeah, my kids are highly intelligent. Top 10%. We are fortunate that we have planned well enough to afford to send them to some pretty good Catholic schools. They often go to academic competitions and often are bested by home schooled kids(they win some, too ). Sometimes home schoolers do it for religious reasons. Sometimes they are not happy with the performance and opportunities offered by public schools. And sometimes, they just have a whole slew of kids and can't afford to send them to better private schools. I've met whaco home schooler parents and I've met top notch teacher home schooler parents.... just like I've met whacos and normals in every other aspect of my life. Home schooling, in itself, can be a darn good choice if you are a parent that can administer it.

 

[Deere Dude]

Something to consider as you head to graduation and consider which route you take, college or the armed services in some branch.

If you take the armed services route, you will be off in a different part of the country or world in time. You will come home for a week here or there and it may be difficult if you were shunned by your family and the church. But you will only have to deal with it for a small period of time and if things got to unbearable you will have money for motels or other sleeping accommodations.

If you go off to college in a state school, more than likely you will be tied to your families rules and their overbearing philosophies over many weekends and all summer when school is out because you won't have money to live without them supplying it. You will be in debt to them because they will more than likely support you financially to some degree and you will have to come home.

Personally I would opt for the armed services because it will be a good learning experience and it will cut the cords of dependence.

 

[MossRoad]

Deere Dude made some excellent points.
I have an acquaintance whose child just went into the Navy. She'll be making $1700 a month, plus being fed, clothed and schooled AND serving her fellow man. You can't get that deal anywhere else.