I do have a 3rd function, but I do not use it for the blade. All snow plows use a single action cylinder, so one cylinder is hooked to each side of the curl function and the lift cylinder is hooked to the float position of the loader control. When it goes to float it lets the fluid back through the same port it uses to lift the cylinder.
The load is carried on the brush guard, the same as it is with the Meyers supplied guard. I do not understand what you mean by "two small latch pins" as it is carried by the 2" pipe that is shaped like a "V" in the pic of the brush guard. I used a similar arrangement for the past 15+ years without issue.
When the builders started supplying air bags on new trucks the plow vendors had to come up with a mount that fully detached from the truck so the air bag sensors would not be blocked when the blade is not mounted. That is why Meyer did away with the old curved 2x2 tube lift cylinder mount that was permanently mounted to the truck and was used for years
I do not care for the Meyers design because it is easy for the blade to trip when stacking snow which allows the snow to fall back on the blade and "trap" the blade in the pile. A bottom edge trip like Fisher uses keeps that from happening. I went with the Meyers because the price was right.
With either blade if the lift cylinder is properly set up it should lift the blade enough to clear obstructions like curbs, but on any plow the frame will eventually strike the curb.