BrokefarmerJohn,
Your story of Max sounds very familiar to our first Lab, a black mix we named Smokey. We adopted her through Petsmart when my daughter was born, and Smokey was guessed to be 10 months to a year old. She was terrified of everything at first, especially men. I could be sitting in the living room for hours, with the dog laying on the carpet, and as soon as I got up, she would bolt up and cower in the corner, shaking in fear. She (a lab) had no concept of "play". Just didn't know how to do it. It took years of positive attention and care for her to come around, but she finally filled out and became a true lab. She got over all of her fears and gained confidence, taking her rightful place as the "family dog". She never did get over her intense dislike for darker skinned men. It wasn't something we taught her or encouraged her to do, but she really disliked any man with a darker skin tone. We could only assume that her previous owners must have abused her and she remembered?
She used to like to lay across the door threshold of the front door if I had it open on a nice day. She could look out the windows of our screened in front porch. One Saturday afternoon she was laying there while I was at my desk working, and I heard her give a low growl and a stifled bark. Without looking up or out the window, I just reflexively said "Git 'em". Normally she would just stand up and bark then. But this time all I heard was toenails scratching concrete and she hit the porch screen door so hard she broke it loose from it's hinges, and I heard toenails on concrete again. Uh-oh. Bye the time I could get up and cross the room to look out the door, I could see her half way down the block, running full tilt, white teeth bared and snapping just inches away from the rear end of an obviously terrified young Hispanic male. All I could think about was this guy hurting my dog (lol), so I took off after them shouting her name as loud as I could. She stopped chasing him when they got to the next street corner and turned around and followed me the rest of the way home, wagging her tail. I'm telling her "good girl, good girl" the whole way home. We get back to our house and I see my buddy's car I was keeping for him next to my carport, and the drivers door is standing open. Nothing was taken, and I never heard a thing, but Smokey heard this guy and knew he didn't belong there.
She died of liver cancer at age 11. Broke my heart. I still miss that dog, she was a good girl.
I do believe dogs in traumatic situations remember, I have one friend (tall skinny white guy) that whenever he comes over max goes nuts, he bit me one day trying to get to this guy in my garage because he came over and max was outside, no other dog has responded to this guy like that and he has a few dogs of his own, my only explanation is that guy must remind max of someone.
Even if he's on the property and max is inside he never stops barking or growling, I have to tell him multiple times to knock it off and he never does. This guy is the only person I have seen max get aggressive towards.
I have tried to get them to get together and get along, this guy has been in my house multiple times for longer periods and I can calm max down, he seems ok but when the guy stands up or moves max runs away from him like he's gonna attack him, max turns around starts growling, barking and showing teeth at him. I don't understand it.
I just try to avoid letting max see him when he's over.
That day max bit me, I was holding his collar, is was acting stupid, barking, growling and I pulled him back, even smacked him in the head and told him to stop but he won't, I can hold his mouth shut and he still try's to growl.
The buddy walked up to me and max, he held out his hand to let max sniff him and my Buddy being a D bag he is sometimes jumps just to aggravate max and that's when max snipped my arm when I was trying to keep him contained, it wasn't hard but I was close enough to my buddy that max mistook my limb for my buddies.
It's like he was possessed, he wouldn't look at me no matter what I did, he was only locked on my buddy.
That's the only person he acts that way against.
Slim, sorry to hear about your dogs death, it will be hard when max passes on also.