Getting an annual physical at the doctors

[Fuddyduddy1952]

We have a very dear friend Sue who has cancer, she was 87 in November. She smoked since she was 12, growing up in Asheville N.C.
Ironically as I was writing my grandfather story his daughter, my Mother, her caregiver called me because she couldn't wake her up!
Mom will be 97, caregiver called 911 apparently she was sleeping soundly. They checked everything...all was well.

 

[Fuddyduddy1952]

I thought of another strange death experience (so many). I've been retired 10 years now and had a consumer electronics repair business, mostly TVs. There was a fellow 64, I was 60 who stopped by my business one day, also a TV repairman. We never knew each other but he said "I was driving by and something told me to visit".
So we chatted for an hour or so mostly about hobbies, his was RC model planes & he knew my friend & neighbor who also flew RC planes. He wanted to smoke, knew I didn't but no problem, he was near an exhaust fan.
Very nice guy it turned out...all those years same town but never met.
The next day I'm looking at obituaries and he was listed saying he passed peacefully in his sleep that night.
So after work I stopped by the funeral home, an open casket, I sat there thinking how such a short time ago he seemed fine, joking, talking about different things.
Life is short.

 

[Sigarms]

So after work I stopped by the funeral home, an open casket, I sat there thinking how such a short time ago he seemed fine, joking, talking about different things.

Everyone mourns differently.

For myself and for my own reasons, do not an open casket.

My dad got convinved about cremation after dealing with a brother in law, and after my dad dying in NC and having to take him back to Pa to be laid to rest, cremation makes to much sense not to do per my own death.

 

[Ken]

I thought of another strange death experience (so many). I've been retired 10 years now and had a consumer electronics repair business, mostly TVs. There was a fellow 64, I was 60 who stopped by my business one day, also a TV repairman. We never knew each other but he said "I was driving by and something told me to visit".
So we chatted for an hour or so mostly about hobbies, his was RC model planes & he knew my friend & neighbor who also flew RC planes. He wanted to smoke, knew I didn't but no problem, he was near an exhaust fan.
Very nice guy it turned out...all those years same town but never met.
The next day I'm looking at obituaries and he was listed saying he passed peacefully in his sleep that night.
So after work I stopped by the funeral home, an open casket, I sat there thinking how such a short time ago he seemed fine, joking, talking about different things.
Life is short.

We live in a very rural part of Arkansas. and with this Covid, I started to keep track of friends that have passed and are related. in a 10-mile radius, there have recorded over 30 friends that I grew up with, All active working and having a busy life.
Routine check and Doctor found Lymth cancer and Basel cells talking with my primary Doctor he suggested to think about quality of life. then mention that at now 88 would probably outlive him. talked with him about taking the Chemo. again suggested it would be 10 years before overcoming the treatment. so chemo Doc got a crook in the tail but did accept the Radiation 2 years later now shows no cancer cells and visiting neighbors or driving down the road think of all the old timers in the area that have passed. the closest neighbor was a mile away now Shanty trailers have been shoved in everywhere there is room to place them. I have met none that seemed to want to be friendly. or have stopped by in there driving down the road. Getting Old is causing us to rethink living here in the area. But then think if we move will it be the same.
Soon we will have to learn another language or continue to become an outsider in the area where I grew up and now know to visit friends there is a rock seat in the cemetery since they are all there now.
None of the younger neighbors know anything about repair or fixing anything just toss and buy new.
It is a different world and came so fast still not ready to give up,
Have friends we meet every other 2 weeks for breakfast, and commented they have the same experience.
getting down to fix anything and then having to wait for simple parts to arrive from China because none of the local dealers have them in stock anymore.
Feed prices are unreal, and medicine have to decide if worthwhile or just sell to canners. Chemical fertilizer the
extra cost does it return in hay or wasted money?
Guess time to get out and shake the bushes to check if anything has moved.
ken

 

[Sigarms]

Ken

The one thing I learned from my grandmother when we lived with her (and when she passed in 1976) is that the world is always going to crap. It's a natural occurance that comes with age

 

[Torvy]

Everyone mourns differently.

For myself and for my own reasons, do not an open casket.

My dad got convinved about cremation after dealing with a brother in law, and after my dad dying in NC and having to take him back to Pa to be laid to rest, cremation makes to much sense not to do per my own death.

I had a young employee whose father died of brain cancer. Another manager and I drove the hour or so out of town for the funeral. Much to my surprise, the casket was open and in the narthex (entry) of the church. Really no choice but to view the body on the way in. In my experience prior, that is usually done near the altar, so those who prefer not to view the body have a chance.

That was a strange summer. Two young employees lost fathers to brain cancer and a middle aged wife/mom lost a husband. 3 funerals in one summer on a team of 50.

 

[Sigarms]

I had a young employee whose father died of brain cancer. Another manager and I drove the hour or so out of town for the funeral. Much to my surprise, the casket was open and in the narthex (entry) of the church. Really no choice but to view the body on the way in. In my experience prior, that is usually done near the altar, so those who prefer not to view the body have a chance.

Yes, I would agree with your assesment on how wakes are generally laid out either at a funeral home or chuch.

I had a long in depth discussion on this with a funeral home director when I was in charge of my aunts funeral.

Like I said, everyone mourns differently, and there is no right way that fits all. Funeral home director pointed out to me that by viewing a dead body, it helps for closure for the loved one of the deceased. I get that. It's just that our body is nothing more than a shell of our former selves and that person really isn't there, even if their body is. Personally I don't need to see a body to realize and understand that the person is no longer on this earth.

 

[Mousehog]

I don't do doctors. I go to a naturopath. I gave up on BigMed after being lectured about high cholesterol. I asked for and received a coronary scan. Zero Plaque.

Also the zombie conformity to C-19 protocols was unbearable to me. Doctors are drug pushers.

 

[plowhog]

My family does not agree or consent to do the annual "Medicare Wellness Exam." It is helpful for a baseline to measure against later, no doubt. But our objection is intrusive government spying possibly leading to all sorts of things ... suspension of driving license, taking guns out of a house, or whatever. We believe those things are coming.

My medical provider today urged me again to do the Wellness Exam. When I declined she said it is now "required" by Medicare. News to me.

 

[MAX-24-Dean]

I don't do doctors. I go to a naturopath. I gave up on BigMed after being lectured about high cholesterol. I asked for and received a coronary scan. Zero Plaque.

Also the zombie conformity to C-19 protocols was unbearable to me. Doctors are drug pushers.

My, Dad always said, "the side effects get them repeat visits."