Advice on helping neighbor

[Industrial Toys]

I have a friend who would help anyone, anytime. the man has very little self esteem, always seeking the approval and admiration of others.

Helping someone can be costly or potentially costly. You wouldn't generally write someone you don't know well a check. So what's the difference?

 

[Diggin It]

Two quick thoughts ....

Do you know they're there and didn't go away for a few days?

Do you know they need it done? I rarely clear my driveway after a snow. If I know I don't have to go out for a few days, I just leave it and let it melt.

 

[Industrial Toys]

Same here. Not done it for a week. Waiting til Saturday and better temps.

 

[CHF4]

NO!

And I have repeatedly watched him and his children spend the entire day playing with the snowmobile while everyone else was out early to clean up the snow.

Sounds like a good dad spending time with his kids. Too many kids are messed up today because their fathers didn’t spend time with them. Granted, I don’t know all the details of this situation..

Just look at prisons, the statistics are high, no father involvement.

That being said, I try to do a little bit of both..fun and work.

 

[Industrial Toys]

I have mixed feelings about that. If DAD is around, he is just the doofis anyway. Not even the dog respects him. MOM knows everything best. Just watch the commercials.

 

[LD48750]

I am the last house on a private road.
Neighbors house wasn't there when I moved in.
I plow my drive, the road & both the neighbors drives.
Been doing it for 30 yrs now.
Second set of owners next door & 5th set at the end of the road.
Most have offered to pay at some point but I decline.
Doesn't take but 2 or 3 swipes to do their drives & I am doing mine anyway.
They just know, I do it after it stops snowing and during the day. (now that I am retired)
Plow truck is acting up right now & record cold, I told neighbor I might not do it if I had to use the tractor but I did anyway.

OP.... If ti was me, it would have already been done.
If the complain about the job, just don't do it again.

 

[tjkubota93]

I was out cleaning up dropped tree limbs in my yard after our newer neighbors moved in. I saw they had a big one in the front yard, near the property line. Already had tractor, trailer for hauling and chainsaw running. So I went and cut it into manageable pieces and threw it on the trailer with all mine. That dude gave me a death stare as if to cuss me and say get off his property. I was expecting a friendly wave or to be offered a beer. Screw him. Never helping again if he asks or not.

 

[Industrial Toys]

Maybe you took his firewood. He should have just said "Get Off My Lawn"

 

[ericm979]

I still hold open doors for people, even if it means waiting for them a bit. I hear stories of feminazis that refuse such manners, but I have yet to run into one.

In the city, I found, few will hold open a door anymore. Certainly not younger folk.

I think it's a myth that there are women who object to having a door held for them (if all you're doing is holding the door, not leering or making a pass at them). I do it often for women and men and no one's ever given me a hard time or even a dirty look. Even in the more alternative parts of San Francisco. It's just plain good manners.

It's not snowed enough here to need a tractor in close to 20 years but I mow one of my neighbor's rarely used roads (after asking). They're super nice people, I don't mind at all and with the tractor I can do it in the fraction of the time. I clear trees that are down on the private roads to our little group of houses too.

 

[tjkubota93]

Maybe you took his firewood. He should have just said "Get Off My Lawn"

No fire place. If I recall it was pretty rotten and it was gum. He usually let's things sit for a month, then picks up and puts on the curb.


Appropriate responses:

hey I'm gonna keep that.

Dont worry with that I will take care of it.

Thankyou


Oh well. I have done multiple things to help him out when he asked and rarely get anything even a thankyou in return. Some people are just selfish and or mean.