Cheap date

[randy41]

If a coffee shop is not good, since I assume this might not be a breakfast date, I think a sandwich shop would be good. Maybe something a little nicer than Subway, but it wouldn't cost more, and would also be a less crowded location, so conducive to conversation. Lunch dates usually want a little lighter meal, so a sandwich, (or soup and sandwich with the cold weather most of us are having) would be perfect, IMO.

Sorry to interfere, if you just wanted guy advice.

you're not interfering. all advice is helpful. it seems like for first meetings with someone the coffee meetup would be good. for someone i already know it should probably be more than that.

 

[farmgirl19]

If it is for supper, if there is an old style pizza parlor around, that could be fun, and also a little different. It also lets both of you get what you want, as you can get a half and half pizza, if y'all don't like the same things for toppings.

edit: And from a female perspective, I wouldn't want to go to an expensive or fancy place. That would make one feel that they were being "bought" in that the guy would be "expecting" more than a meal date, after the meal was finished.

Something better than fast food, but not too fancy. If something a little different available, all the better. If a girl gets to a certain age, and hasn't learned the value of a dollar, and how hard they are to come by, you probably don't want her anyway! JMO

 

[bullbreaker]

edit: And from a female perspective, I wouldn't want to go to an expensive or fancy place. That would make one feel that they were being "bought" in that the guy would be "expecting" more than a meal date, after the meal was finished.
JMO

Your not talking about "desert" are you ? :laughing:



Boone

 

[farmgirl19]

Your not talking about "desert" are you ? :laughing:



Boone

In a way....Yes. :laughing:

 

[luvmexfood]

Good one.

Your not talking about "desert" are you ? :laughing:



Boone

 

[randy41]

i guess there's some irony here in that one of the women i'm going to ask out probably earns 3 or 4 times as much a year as i do. maybe separate checks will work. then there's no pressure on the woman. anyway, if you go out to dinner with someone you already know and the chemistry is there why wouldn't you both want 'desert'?

 

[nc redneck]

I believe and polls say women like alpha males. The ones who can hunt and provide food, in today's society it equals the ones with a lot of money. Put your best foot forward. Drive your best truck and buy new clothes for dates.

 

[farmgirl19]

i guess there's some irony here in that one of the women i'm going to ask out probably earns 3 or 4 times as much a year as i do. maybe separate checks will work. then there's no pressure on the woman. anyway, if you go out to dinner with someone you already know and the chemistry is there why wouldn't you both want 'desert'?

If you already know the woman, and y'all both want "dessert", there is no problem. But then, there would be no problem with having one over and cooking a neat meal, and if she likes the kitchen, she can help, and y'all can visit/talk, etc. during food preparation. I thought you were asking about meeting someone new, and even meeting halfway, if she lived far.

I'm not making a judgement call on if you "should or shouldn't" have dessert, but if you don't know her, a fancy or expensive place might make her uncomfortable. That's all that I am saying. Might not be something a guy would consider.

I guess that I am not being very helpful.

 

[/pine]

i'm newly single and i'm going to start dating. but going out seems really expensive these days. i'm not poor but i don't want to become so. I'm a good cook but i think for at least a first date i would want to go out somewhere. i'm 63. i live way out of town and when i factor in the gas to go pick up someone and then go to a restaurant and then do the reverse a date will cost at least $75. what do guys do to keep dating from busting the budget?

You say you live "way out of town"...you have to buy groceries etc...check and see if there is any type of "senior center" in your county...they often arrange covered dish suppers. fish fries etc. and other social activities...likewise with local churches (been mentioned)...

companionship is human nature..."seek and ye shall find"...

Good luck...BTW...'farmgirl19' has offered some very sage advice...IMO...

 

[JD 4520]

If you already know the woman, and y'all both want "dessert", there is no problem. But then, there would be no problem with having one over and cooking a neat meal, and if she likes the kitchen, she can help, and y'all can visit/talk, etc. during food preparation. I thought you were asking about meeting someone new, and even meeting halfway, if she lived far.

I'm not making a judgement call on if you "should or shouldn't" have dessert, but if you don't know her, a fancy or expensive place might make her uncomfortable. That's all that I am saying. Might not be something a guy would consider.

I guess that I am not being very helpful.

Randy - you might want to give more value to the advice provided by farmgirl19. She has the code...been married for 30 years and have to admit she is right on.