Since the question: "Would you hook up your trailer, and drive somewhere,...... to pick up your UPS/Amazon packages?" was asked....
When it comes to truck/freight shipments I for one can say absolutely positively YES! (and would probably use more expressive adjectives in front of that "yes" if I wasn't trying to be polite). Personally I'd rather not be stuck at my house/property all day (or week) waiting for a truck to show up whenever they got around to showing up. Especially since I've had (freight and parcel) carriers either not call (despite explicit instructions to do so) -- or call when they were 15 minutes out and I was further away which means wasted time/fuel for everyone involved. ...of course that also assumes I'm somewhere I can actually receive/hear their call when it's made (which I frequently am not).
So personally I much prefer them holding large freight items at the terminal 30+ miles away as they have more incentive to call me in a timely manner so I can come pick it up (and free up their floor/trailer space). Not to mention they will have a suitable method of loading my trailer available. Now if my shipment gets to be more than a quarter/half of a truck load (depending on what it is), I figure the driver can sit and wait for me just like they (most likely) would be doing as I unload.
Otherwise, I'd happily take the time to drive home (which could be 30-60 minutes), pull my trailer out of storage with the tractor, hook it up to the truck, drive the 30-45 minutes to a freight terminal, have the item loaded at the terminal, and head home, unload and undo everything I just had to do to go get the item. That's assuming a trailer is actually required, which so far has only been needed for an order that consisting of multiple items, only part of which (if ordered alone) wouldn't fit in the bed of a pickup (e.g. a disk harrow). In either case I'm going to the terminal to pick a shipment up I only lose a half day, where if I have to hang around waiting for them I lose at least one full day -- and possibly more if they get delayed/waylaid.
Now to be honest I have to admit I'm rather confused as to why this is even a topic of discussion since EA makes implements, and does not set the company policies for the freight companies who are delivering EA products. If a someone thinks that they can arrange a better shipping arrangement for themselves I'd suggest they call EA to see what EA's policy is on customer arranged shipping, and if (or how much) it'd affect the purchase price and take that option.
As for freight shipping to residences becoming the default; seeing as how shipping costs are set by the freight companies (not EA), I'd rather not be paying prices that reflect that "convenience" as it'd most likely be more money out of my pocket for something that I don't want.
Then on top of that (in many cases) making residential/non-commercial deliveries the default would likely create additional hazards/problems for the delivery drivers as:
- many people don't have a clue of how much space is needed to turn a truck around (even when it's driven by a top-notch driver),
- some will inevitably think it's "okay" for the delivery driver to break traffic laws the receiver doesn't know/care about (e.g. obstructing traffic) just so the receiver can "conveniently" unload a vehicle that's not suited for making deliveries to the receiver's location.
Both of those are also assuming the receiver doesn't outright lie about the space situation at their location. ...and given how many friends I've had as truck drivers over the years, I can't say I'd want them having to deal with any of that (unless they're willing and being compensated accordingly).
So I'd wager all of those play a part of the reasons (in addition to some of the reasons other have stated) why freight companies tend to charge different rates for residential vs. commercial address deliveries. Of course this inevitably goes back to my earlier comment about individuals/businesses arranging & using their own freight carrier....and working with EA if they want to buy something from EA, but not use EA's "free shipping".