Female advice needed

[dmccarty]

First, I found that being widowed was like having leprosy. MANY women absolutely will not date a widower. They feel as though they'll be competing with a sainted ghost. The insanity was, a lot of them were divorced and that didn't seem to matter to them at all. I can't imagine being afraid to date/marry a man who stood by his vows until death - while having no problem with someone who gave up and walked away from their marriage.

I had to empty my home of just about e v e r y t h i n g to avoid problems. Curio cabinet contents, artwork, jewelry and clothing for starters. It didn't matter that some items were those I had picked for us. Nope! Get it outta here!!!

By the way, I am also not a woman ... but sometimes I play one on the Internet

You need to find some better women to date. :laughing::laughing::laughing:

When my neighbor started dating after his wife died, he did not have a problem getting dates. :thumbsup: Course, the demographics favor the guys. He eventually remarried and she moved into his house but she kept her house. Unfortunately, he fell ill, lost one kidney and almost died a few times. :shocked: His new wife stood by him through it all. They are now selling his house and moving to her house because he is no longer able to help with the upkeep and her house is easier to maintain.

I really respect both of these people. They both stood by their previous spouses during long, difficult illnesses and then remarried. His new wife has had to nurse her new husband for a couple of years now and she certainly deserves better. They are two people who most certainly keep their word and honor their vows. No ifs, ands, or buts. We will be sorry to see them move.

When they were dating, they both took motorcycle safety classes, got matching leathers and motorcycles! :laughing::laughing::laughing: They both liked to ride when they were younger but their spouses did not like them to ride. When the found each other they figured what the heck and got the motorcycles. :thumbsup:

Later,
Dan

 

[daugen]

I am sure Brin will give Daugen help on the fine points of tin foil hat making. I would bet Daugen will be dressed to impressed with a Brin designed Tin Foil Hat using Reynolds aluminum. A Brin Hat will be much better than an Underwear hat. :thumbsup::laughing::laughing::laughing:

Well Brin, I'm waiting expectantly...since I have no idea what a tin foil hat is, but
it sounds sort of reflective...for those reflective moments?

 

[Egbert]

I always referred to jewelry as shiney objects. Unless I look in the checkbook, I can't tell a diamond from a broken coke bottle. I'd really rather have a new chainsaw

What I did learn is this, raising a fuss or trying to dissuade your wife from acquiring nice jewelry is not worth the regret you will carry when she is gone. Your wife is a gift from God, and she should always be treated as such. Live and learn .................

 

[dmccarty]

I always referred to jewelry as shiney objects. Unless I look in the checkbook, I can't tell a diamond from a broken coke bottle. I'd really rather have a new chainsaw

What I did learn is this, raising a fuss or trying to dissuade your wife from acquiring nice jewelry is not worth the regret you will carry when she is gone. Your wife is a gift from God, and she should always be treated as such. Live and learn .................

I got lucky/picked the right wifey. Or maybe she picked me? :confused3: She is not into jewelry, shoes, fancy clothes, etc. Her only weak spot is cars. :confused3::shocked::laughing::laughing::laughing: I think we have that under control now after a few bad purchases.

Yesterday, she was planting a tree and she pinged me that she found a small Copperhead in the hole she had dug. Well, she killed that Copperhead ASAP and got the tree planted. :thumbsup::laughing::laughing::laughing: Squeamish she is not!

Later,
Dan

 

[Egbert]

You need to find some better women to date.

Well, sometimes that is exactly right.

The problem is, some widows/widowers put their late spouse on a pedestal and thereby place their new mates in a tough spot. I can certainly understand this but had no idea just how strongly women felt on the matter.

 

[farmgirl19]

You need to find some better women to date.

Well, sometimes that is exactly right.

The problem is, some widows/widowers put their late spouse on a pedestal and thereby place their new mates in a tough spot. I can certainly understand this but had no idea just how strongly women felt on the matter.

I have not been faced with this, but here's my take anyway. As a woman, I can compete with another woman, but I cannot compete with a ghost.

 

[xtn]

Funny....

I gave a ring to my wife and said, "This ring was my Mother's, and now I want you to have it." She was very touched and has cherished the ring.

I'm pretty sure if I had said, "This ring was my ex-girlfriend's, and now I want you to have it," She would have busted a vein. Probably one of my veins.

xtn

 

[daugen]

I have not been faced with this, but here's my take anyway. As a woman, I can compete with another woman, but I cannot compete with a ghost.

don't worry!
I'm friendly!
Casper


point well made and appreciated

 

[dave1949]

Drew, I'll bet after some time has passed, you wouldn't want to give anything personal, like jewelry that was Nadene's, to a woman that is your friend.

 

[daugen]

Dave, FG and many others, thank you.
perhaps my ambivalence with jewelry is due to my being a no bling no jewelry person. I don't wear it, all I know is that
it gives joy and happiness when given. Usually.

so yes, I will either sell it or give it to family, which I have now completed. My sister picked out a nice pearl necklace with alternating grey and creme pearls, to match her hair which she refuses to dye. Whatever, she was happy, that's all that mattered, and she said she will think of Nadene every time she wears it. That sure satisfies me.

I still wish she'd dye her hair...she's a really pretty brunette, like my Mother, and looks twenty years older with that mop of grey frizzy stuff.
And if she dyes it and looks 35, that means her three older brothers automatically lose ten years of age. We have had it all figured out for decades. She never bit though...very much an organic naturalist who didn't want manufactured dyes on her.
Sigh.

now that was an Olympic digression...sorry.