Bob Rooks said:
Just wanted to get a point across to Joe that he should "walk a mile in the other persons shoes" before he passes judgment on who or what they are. Your job is what you make it to be. Every single person is valuable and unique, and has their very own special set of circumstances. Joe should know that by now.
I was trying to get that point across...that I HAVE walked a mile in those shoes. That is why I moved on. I've done crappy, lowly jobs and they convinced me that that is NOT what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. Just as Dave's children learned. Crappy, lowly jobs are for kids and they teach life lessons. You DON'T treat those people like crap, and you DON'T want to do that kind of job forever either.
Please don't compare a "server" with anything else. Again, you're comparing apples to oranges. There is NO caparison between a waitress and somebody digging holes, pounding fence posts, chopping wood, stacking bricks, etc. Servers must be compared to other servers. Why don't you "tip" the person who does anything else? The menu shows the price...technically, that's it. The check comes and THAT is what you owe. Just like when the garbage bill comes, the electric bill, the bill from the insurance company. Why do we have some jobs where we OWE them extra beyond the bill? I say a tip SHOULD be ONLY for an exceptional job done, when you had special requests above and beyond that which is ordinary. Why do we tip others? Taxi drivers, Bellboys, etc. We've all been conned.
As for being "only" a food server...well, what CAN I say? It is a "lowly" job. Does it make the person "bad"? Lazy? Of course not, it does however show a lack of motivation or a lack of the ability to better themselves. Agreed? Does anyone as a child say..."gee dad, when I grow up I want to be a waiter..."? It's a job you "settle for" when you can't find anything else. Or, it's the job you "end up with" if you don't have any drive or ambition. You can't possibly disagree.
I really don't know why anyone would get so upset because "I" personally don't think a waiter/waitress deserves 20% of the meals value. In fact, a flat 20% doesn't make ANY sense. A waitress at a "dive" where the whole meal costs $5 gets $1 for doing as much or more work than the waitress at the fancy schmancy place where the meal costs $100. Just because of the "place" she works, doing the same or less work, she receives $20. Is that FAIR? No, and I won't give it to her.
I guess people just like to argue...look at how many posts there are about which oil to use, whether off road or on road are better... It's human nature to think you're right and the other guy is clueless. In THIS case I'm right...
OK, I'm a retired, disabled veteran, living on only my social security...I guess since I can't afford a big tip, I'm not "allowed" to eat out occasionally? I can defend YOU and your children, but I'm not good enough...no, RICH enough for a decent meat now and then? Don't judge until you've walked a mile in MY shoes...eh? No, that's not true either...just something to think about...
I don't think their "service" is worth 20%, that all...end of discussion.
OK, I win...according to here:
The Original Tipping Page - Tips | US | Restaurant a tip is NOT required!
Waitstaff - The source of many e-mails, this section is the most controversial on the site. Especially the 'waiter / waitress entry. My opinion is: tip your waiter / waitress. But this is not to say that it should be ever considered 'required'. Recently, most wait staff have lost sight of the fact that a tip is a gratuity and NOT a must.