i had a JD770 & Woods BH7500 bought new in 1996 - both of the predecessors of what you have. I opted for 3PH mounting and went with the PTO pump both due to dealer recommendation and not really knowing a lot about it back then. Knowing what I know now and having it for around 25 years, i probably would have gone the opposite way on both counts...
I never had any strength issues with the 3ph mount - many people swear you'll break them in half without a subframe. I can say that combination of tractor & backhoe probably not. i thrashed and pounded on a lot of large stumps and rocks over the years and did not break anything other than a few hydraulic hoses. I found the 3ph awkward to get aligned and hooked up. I stored outdoors so there was a lot of side to side alignment adjusting to try to get all the pins where I needed them. Also, the stock 3PH mount is a semi-universal design with an adjustable top link and there was no ideal adjustment - it either left the hoe angled slightly up or slightly down with respect to the ground. I think the subframe mount would have been easier to mount. my primary decision was that the tractor did not have a lot of ground clearance, and I feared I would be dragging the subframe a lot.
as far as the PTO pump, it was perfectly fine. at some point in the late 90's / early 2000's when i had started to learn more about tractors, i found that the PTO pump was 6GPM. That tractor had a 5.6GPM internal pump for the hydraulic system, excluding power steering. A few years after I added power beyond to run the hydraulic feed on a
chipper, and eventually, around 2021 the PTO pump shaft broke. the pump and tank were then removed from the tractor and it was plumbed to the tractor power beyond when needed. There seemed to be no noticeable difference in hydraulic power with the backhoe.