Pilot Jerk? Remember were only hearing ONE side of this story.
Personally i think hes over reacting. Ive lived 3 mi off the end of a busy small airport, plus my mother lives less than 1/2 mile from this same airport. Planes are well under 400' going over moms. Noise, while present, isnt that big of a deal and lasts for at the most 20 seconds.
If theres unbiased EVIDENCE (ie: video or even photos) that this pilot is acting irresponsibly or deliberately going out of his way to harass the OP then ill change my opinion, but as it sounds to me now, the OP is making a mountain out of a molehill. The airport is permitted. He has a right to fly. The OP is just as guilty of being a "jerk" as you put it, for trying to force his will on the pilot.
The buzzing airplane sound and an altitude of 400' over your house may not bother you but it does bother the OP.