My Brothers Estate

[JasperFrank]

This was the bible/reference we all used. "..... it's becoming more likely that I'm going to use the grinder and cut a hole in the door. " Absolutley do not do this! You have no idea how anything is stacked in there, or even if the brother may have re-loading supplies in there. The flash point of most loose powder is about 330 F. If its a numerical keypad type, codes are almost always some iteration of the date of birth.
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[Jstpssng]

the brother may have re-loading supplies in there. The flash point of most loose powder is about 330 F

Good Call!
Also something nobody else has mentioned.

 

[Sigarms]

Now I’m really starting from the topic. Yet I have refused to sell a truck because the potential buyer didn’t understand that just because he could drive it home didn’t mean it wouldn’t need TLC.

I tried selling my Toyota V6 with 214k on it. Dealt with a lot of yahoos on marketplace facebook. Finally one guy seemed normal, and I told him I would have a mechanic go over it top to bottom because it was just a beater truck for me at my point in life.

I did take it to the mechanic. Ended up having a head gasket replaced with motors for the windows because I still gave it the chance this guy was a whack job, just hand't seen it yet (after dealing with 8 idiots, this guy I made up my mind was my last chance).

THEN the guy tells me he has to check with his bank to see if he can buy it. Who the &*$% needs to go to a bank to buy a $3,500 truck?

Now I just tell my wife our used truck is cheaper than a RTV or whatever you call the $15,000 2/4 seater for hauling stuff around the house.

Point being, when you deal with people on a internet forum where they don't have to "join" and they don't have some skin in the game and be accountable for their actions, you really do have a lot of idiots in the general public.

That said, have come across some sane people on facebook. Far and few in between though.

Sorry Eddie, WAY off the tracks on this one

 

[Sigarms]

On a side note, sincere thanks for Eddie for starting this thread (although the circumstances suck, I understand).

We ended up checking our paperwork hidden in the safe. My wife thought we had a trust, we did not, simple wills along with power of attorney.

We ended up getting a new lawyer for the trust as the original lawyer has since died who wrote up our wills.

Reality is we really needed a lot of things updated.

I can be a big procrastinator at times on certain things, and the reality is spending money on a lawyer is never high on my "to do list". Glad I did, in part due to this thread.

If you haven't revisited what you have on file in years, suggest you do so. We need to take my FIL off and add my MIL as my FIL died last year as well as some other changes due to time.

Like this new lawyer. His only point to me is you want to keep EVERYTHING per assets out of probate.

 

[Sigarms]

Apologies for keep this thread alive, but my wife just got back from her mothers (only an hour away) spending two nights with her, and we had a conversation this morning on our walk.

Seems my Aunt (my wife's mother's sister) asked my wife to be her executor of their will/estate.

This aunt has two grown men, and neither wanted to discuss anything with their mother (when their mother brought the subject up of someone being a "executor") of what would happen with anything if she dies (this aunt just turned 75) and she realizes both her and her husband won't be around forever.

That said, if a love one wants to talk to you about planning about the future possibility of their death, hiding you head in the sand will accomplish nothing and you aren't helping the person that wants to talk with you as a loved one.

I'm kind of honored that my aunt would want my wife as the only person she would want as her executor if her sons don't want to talk about it, but my fear is my wife is in a lot of potential future headache with my cousins or her "uncle in laws" family.

This is crap that we don't normally think about...

Sorry Eddie, you kind of opened the can of worms up on this subject, but in the end, I think it can be for a good thing.

 

[D2Cat]

Have the aunt put everything in a trust with your wife as the executor. When the aunt passes no one will know her business except the executor and the ones the aunt wants to gift with something.

 

[Sigarms]

Have the aunt put everything in a trust with your wife as the executor. When the aunt passes no one will know her business except the executor and the ones the aunt wants to gift with something.

We talked about that. My wife's aunt doesn't even have a trust.

Keep in mind, my wife doesn't come into play if her (aunt) husband is still alive when she dies (husband is good guy IMO, she met him when he was a jarhead and he's level headed).

My comment to my wife (on our walk) is when we talk to our new "estate / trust" lawyer in person, to ask him about her aunts request.

What I find amazing is her (my wife's aunt) own sons don't want to talk about what happens when she dies. Reality is we are all going to die sooner or later..

 

[MossRoad]

We talked about that. My wife's aunt doesn't even have a trust.

Keep in mind, my wife doesn't come into play if her (aunt) husband is still alive when she dies (husband is good guy IMO, she met him when he was a jarhead and he's level headed).

My comment to my wife (on our walk) is when we talk to our new "estate / trust" lawyer in person, to ask him about her aunts request.

What I find amazing is her (my wife's aunt) own sons don't want to talk about what happens when she dies. Reality is we are all going to die sooner or later..

My wife's brother won't talk about their mom's eventual passing. He wouldn't talk about his dad's personal affairs before he passed 2 years ago either. Some folks just can't do it. He thanked my wife and me for taking care of things for his mom. He meant it. I was happy to do it for the family.

 

[Sigarms]

My wife's brother won't talk about their mom's eventual passing. He wouldn't talk about his dad's personal affairs before he passed 2 years ago either. Some folks just can't do it. He thanked my wife and me for taking care of things for his mom. He meant it. I was happy to do it for the family.

When it comes to people in general, sad to say I'm a half empty glass kind of guy instead of it being a full glass.

 

[MossRoad]

When it comes to people in general, sad to say I'm a half empty glass kind of guy instead of it being a full glass.

I'm a glass half empty kind of guy because I drank the first half and enjoyed it.