Spencer - I agree with everything you said!
murph - Yes, it is frustrating.
The dealer did offer to bring the tractor back and then pick it up again later when all the parts arrive. I said to wait until Thursday in case the parts show up, but then I'm going to need the tractor with or without the FEL before the weekend. I need to plant about 50 trees, so I need the post hole digger, and I'll need to mow the grass too. Fortunately, it's been a very dry spring, so the grass hasn't taken off yet.
And, to add to that, I brought a big rock back with me from Michigan (from the farm where I grew up), expecting to unload it with the FEL. It's still in the back of my pickup. I'm guessing it weighs over 500lbs. If I don't have the FEL, I'm pretty sure I can unload it with the boom pole on the back of the tractor, but it would sure be easier with the FEL.