How about worrying a little more about being a good person, period. What I mean by this is how about worrying a little less about being a good Catholic, or a good Anglican, or a good Hebrew, etc. and just be a good person. Let's call it "Goodpersonism".
This community, TBN, is really all built on a bunch of guys (I don't know of any Ladies, so I say 'Guys' - correct me if I'm wrong) who enjoy helping each other out. This, I think, can be extrapolated to helping out your neighbor, friend, or just someone in need.
I'm really sick of people thinking that their ability to not swear, to attend church once or twice a week, or to pray before they eat, equals being a 'good person'. Some of the kindest, most helpful, and most giving people I know swear a lot, drink a fair bit, and some of them (dare I say it....) are atheists.
I worked at one of our Rodeos a month or so ago. One of the steer riders (13 or 14 yo I think) got tossed and caught one of the steer's kicking back hooves on his way down. A couple of broken ribs and a pneumothorax later he was on his way to the hospital. I was back in the chutes with him before EMS got there, and (IMO, rightly so) there was some swearing. When his Mom arrived her biggest concern was the fact that he was swearing - HIS ******* RIBS ARE BROKEN!!!!! (that was self censored) He's grown up throwing bales, turning wrenches, and getting thrown off horses - what do you expect??? The next day, after spending one night on the ward at the Children's hospital that Young Man was back at the rodeo and tracked me down, under his own volition, to thank me and shake my hand. IMO, that's a good guy, and I'm pretty sure he still loves his Mom too.......
Now, I'm not saying you should tee up Chris Rock's latest DVD and leave your kids at home to watch it for the evening. Swearing can make some people uncomfortable, which isn't cool, but it can be pretty funny too (in the right situation and company) !!! Have any of you heard Carlin's 3 minute dissertation on uses of the word **** (I censored that too) ?? Now come on, that's funny.
This day in age if your kids are relatively well adjusted, not into drugs, aren't "kids having kids", and have some life goals you're doing VERY well. If an F-bomb slips out now and then, even at the dinner table, you're still doin' well!!!
Look around the room next time your in your place of worship (bring a mirror too) and look at how many people you see around you that actually TRULY live the life that the bible teaches, all week long, during the 167 hours that they're not sitting in the pew in their Sunday best. There's not many. People are selfish, they cheat on their spouses, they steal, they beat there children (or spouse), they screw their business partners, and on and on it goes.....
Times have changed. I try my best to open doors for Ladies, to take my ball cap off when I grab lunch, and to plow my Widowed neighbor's drive when it snows, but not all guys (or girls) my age are like that. I'm 30.
I'm sorry for offending anyone with what I thought was a creative way to spell 'animal poop' using the dollar sign and an exclamation point. If your kids or grandkids are surfing TBN with you, and they're sharp enough to catch the jyst of my symbolic swearing, that's GOOD!!! That means they can think in the abstract, and you know what, if they're sitting on your lap and reading it, it's a chance for you to tell them that "it's not nice to say kinda thing in front of Grandma". I guarantee that on their first day on grade 1 you won't be there on the playground with them to tell them, nor will you be there to tell 'em when they see it in an online chat room, hear it on XM satellite radio, or at a friends house on a sleepover.
I was a bit offended by my 'wrist-slap' email that I got last week, but I'm definitely over it now. I've done my best to be friendly, helpful, and contribute to TBN with everything I can over the past 6 or so months and fully plan to continue, so the PM about my joking response to the PTO game was a bit of a slap in the face. I've definitely taken far more knowledge away than I've put in, but I hope that will balance out sometime in the future, likely the distant future.
Hope I haven't set off a hornets nest here, just please don't hide your heads in the sand and think that censoring what is really some pretty mild swearing is gonna save the next generation from further social decay.
-Jer.
ps - Oh ya, by the way, I let my friends borrow my tractor, trailer, SeaDoo's, and tools too, just about anything short of my Girlfriend or Dog. There's always room to crash at our house on your way through town, and if there physically isn't room, I'll make sure you've got a comfy bed to sleep in at a nice B&B I know about. I'll only 'escort' someone with my gear and do it for them if I don't think they're safe to run the machine on there own. I trust that they'll return it as they took it, and if they don't, I've learned not to lend to them anymore (yes, it has happened). I've been blessed with a lot, and in my mind sharing it is part of being a 'good guy'.