Thank You

[Diamondback]

Eddie,

Very little I can add here that hasn't already been said. Just wanted to let you know I too have appreciated, both indirectly and directly, your huge contribution to this forum.

Like many others here, I have been down the road your on now and while it is a challenge now, rest assured new doors will indeed open for you.

If you ever find yourself in the mountains of North Carolina, you've got a place to stay.

Diamondback

 

[dcyrilc]

Eddie,
I just came across this thread. I'm not sure what I can say other than "Hang in there, Our prayers are with you!".


Staying busy is good advise. So is helping out at the church. Helping others is very therapudic. Of course, knocking down some trees with the dozer can help too. If you can find someone else who needs trees knocked down... even better! We're all here for you.

 

[needtobuildmore]

Eddie,

I have been a reader here for a long time, and have noticed your posts on many occasions as being very helpful, well written and considerate. You have a knack for giving advice without sounding condescending, and you always come across as a very good person.

Unfortunately, bad things happen to good people, as many others have posted. I'm sure the bad things you have already gone through have helped shape you into the good person that you are, and this is another of those painful instances that will eventually pass & will be a positive in the long run.

Try to keep your head up and focus on all of the good thoughts and well-wishes from all the friends you knew you had and all of us lurkers who you didn't know, but who feel like friends nonetheless.

Take Care.

Jim

 

[duck spy]

Eddie(aka David)
like you said your brother is an hour away if you need me I'm there,if you need to get away hook up your tractor,brush cutter,and post hole digger and come on over....keeping bussy will keep your mind off things.
love ya bro...

 

[dex3361]

Eddie
Do not kick yourself for your original post. It was venting if nothing else. It was a coping with the moment move. If to much pressure builds something has to give or it blows apart. All you did was let off some pressure and that is a good thing it means you are coping.
Your heart shows through on this forum in your kind words and that could even be detected in your original post which shows what she really lost. You felt bad for her. Allow this to make you a better just as other hard times have. I will pray for you.

 

[MarkV]

Duck welcome to the forum. You keep in touch with Eddie for us, OK.

MarkV

 

[Tanberry]

Eddie , Like many others I only know you through your posts. I wanted to say hang in there ! your passion for you projects and life come out in your posts and reply's.That same passion will serve you well as you bounce back . As you can tell from my stats I rarely post but I wanted join the others in showing my support for you .

 

[Hosskix]

Hey Man, I am sorry and can't add much to what others have said.
I too have been through what you're feeling now and all I can say is that it sucks.

When my ex walked out on me without any reason and without trying to work it out, all I could keep thinking to my self was "what did I do wrong? What could I have done differently?"

A friend gave me a piece of advice that his mother had given him in the same circumstances: "You didn't do NOTHING wrong, you are still working during the day and coming home at night, taking care of what needs doing, just like a HUSBAND AND A WIFE are suppose to do; SHE broke that contract, not YOU! So you get that out of your head RIGHT NOW!!!"

It took me a couple of months, but what that ol' lady told her (over 50 yo) son finally took root.
You do the best you can for you and your family everyday.
You provide for them and let them know that they are loved.
That's the best a man can do; that's ALL a man can do.

The fact that SHE wanted something different is not a reflection on you (although it feels that way at the moment) it's a reflection on her.
You are a good man with a good work ethic, and (judging from your posts and all the pictures of you and her) a strong love of family.
We as mere mortals will never understand what's going on in another's heart and you can drive yourself crazy wondering "why, what if, and would have" or you can accept what is and try to make the best of it.

Trust me, you're better off making yourself accept what is and not what could have been and moving on with your life.
My life is MUCH better after the Lord allowed me to "flip that switch" and move on.

God bless and if you ever feel like coming to West Texas, give me a shout.
I'll make you THINK that you haven't got any friends!

 

[F350]

Eddie - I read your original post and was blown away. I am truely sorry for your loss. I am even sorrier for the kids, and I hope you can continue to care/be there for them.

I'm praying for you. Also, don't forget to thank Hakim for removing the original post. He was looking out for you.

John

 

[CurlyDave]

I agree, Hakim did the right thing.

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Eddie:

This will pass and you will heal. You are a strong and worthy man.

Be thankful that you had no children with her. God had a different plan for you than what we thought. You will grow through the pain and new doors will open.

I have been through similar experiences.