Doug,
What I'm saying with the pressure issue, is that I like to build in a safety factor. Your pressure relief valve kicks open at 2500 p.s.i. of nice steady even pressure and flow. However, in the real world, I'll bet you are seeing spikes well over 5 k.p.s.i. before that little check ball can come off the seat in your relief valve and port the excess pressure back to tank. Your pump may only put out 2500 p.s.i., but it's all the other components of your system which give you pressure spikes.
I've seen large excavators with 6 k.p.s.i. relief valves absolutely grenade cylinder housings out on the boom.

And I mean split them length wise from end to end. Would 6 k.p.s.i. do this? No way. Probably more like 12 k plus! These spikes happen way faster than the pressure relief can compensate for. Or, more hydraulic flow than the pressure relief can pass before coming down to rated system pressure. This is what happens when you bounce your FEL, or anything else for that matter. This is exactly why hoses rated at 4 k.p.s.i. blow in a system rated for 2500 p.s.i.
But, that all aside, I think you have defective q.d.'s, no matter where they came from or what color they are. I can't see TSC not making good on them. My guess is that if you had this problem, many more before you have already returned these.
As far as leaking under no pressure goes, the higher the pressure, the harder the fluid pushes the ball on the seat. No hydraulic pressure means only spring pressure holding the ball on the seat. If you have a minor imperfection on the ball or seat, the spring can't apply enough pressure by itself to make a good seal.
If they are all pioneer brand couplings, but different color and design, they were probably from different batches. The o-rings have no effect on leakage when the q.d. is disconnected.
As far as people with Aggie style tractors switching over goes, I tell customers that they are better off with the higher quality flush face q.d. For an aggie style tractor, it's probably the last q.d. they will ever buy. My customers that are always pinching pennies keep buying the old style stuff and keep replacing it year after year. The guys that want it done once and done right buy the flush face and I rarely see them. Just remember, the cheap pay twice. I hope this helps you in your decision.
Good luck, Andy.