Why me?

[goeduck]

The dreaded question....... How do you FEEL about (whatever)?

I do not even know what it means sometimes :mur: :mur:

 

[ChuckT]

My lady friend always apologizes. Never excuses or deflecting blame. I like that.

You LUCKY dawg!! Her parents did it right.

 

[ChuckT]

I think it's one of those things you should learn, but don't, in school. Right up there with:
Be a people not a person.
Every authority, moral, cleric, civil, science, etc tells the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
And can be trusted.
And finally - guilt is wonderful.

 

[Hay Dude]

These days I cannot win a discussion if my life depended on it. Early in our relationship it was more even, but as time went on if winning is who gets the last word, I win less and less to the point of no return. I just will not talk as much or as long and I guess and my logic does not count. On the good side, she could care less on what I spend on tractor equipment and I make all money decisions.

Win the war, not every battle.

I can tell thats the problem, right there. She probably DOES care what you spend, but isnt telling you. Thats probably why she gets the last word. And if you are making ALL the money decisions, it could manifest itself as passive/aggressive anger or having to get the last word. I have business to mind, so I have enough financial headaches. I let my wife run the personal finances, which she screws up royally, but then theres no blame for Hay Dude cause Mrs Hay Dude messed it up. :thumbsup:

Anyone else want martial counseling? :laughing::laughing:

 

[groundcover]

I can tell thats the problem, right there. She probably DOES care what you spend, but isnt telling you. Thats probably why she gets the last word. And if you are making ALL the money decisions, it could manifest itself as passive/aggressive anger or having to get the last word. I have business to mind, so I have enough financial headaches. I let my wife run the personal finances, which she screws up royally, but then theres no blame for Hay Dude cause Mrs Hay Dude messed it up. :thumbsup:

Anyone else want martial counseling? :laughing::laughing:

Sounds like this will need a whole new section ! Or maybe it would go under attachments !

 

[Frankenkubota]

My lady friend always apologizes. Never excuses or deflecting blame. I like that.

Could that be the difference between a friend and a wife?

 

[ChuckT]

Sad that we are discussing it this.

 

[MossRoad]

I can tell thats the problem, right there. She probably DOES care what you spend, but isnt telling you. Thats probably why she gets the last word. And if you are making ALL the money decisions, it could manifest itself as passive/aggressive anger or having to get the last word. I have business to mind, so I have enough financial headaches. I let my wife run the personal finances, which she screws up royally, but then theres no blame for Hay Dude cause Mrs Hay Dude messed it up. :thumbsup:

Anyone else want martial counseling? :laughing::laughing:

Ahhh, no. :laughing:

 

[goeduck]

1. I can tell thats the problem, right there. She probably DOES care what you spend, but isnt telling you. Thats probably why she gets the last word. And if you are making ALL the money decisions, it could manifest itself as passive/aggressive anger or having to get the last word.

2. I let my wife run the personal finances, which she screws up royally, but then theres no blame for Hay Dude cause Mrs Hay Dude messed it up. :thumbsup:

3. Anyone else want martial counseling? :laughing::laughing:

1. Maybe you are joking, I assume you are because you do not know my wife and me to make such a detailed observation. I have tried to get my wife to care about money and even understand where I have it invested and she has no interest whatsoever.

2. Why would you let someone screw up royally when it comes to money?

3. :rotfl:

 

[Damifino]

Can't help but this thread reminds me of a joke I heard years ago. A man was walking down the beach in Cal. he discovered an aladin's lamp in the sand, he looked around to see if anyone was watching.
Then bent down and picked it up, strolled further down beach where he found cover, he thinking "what the heck" he rubbed it and sure enough a Genie appeared telling him he had 1 wish.
Always wanting to see Hawaii and would not get on a boat or plane, he then asked the Genie to build a bridge from Cal. to Hawaii, the Genie replied, master do you know how deep the Pacific Ocean is, that would be "impossible".

The Genie then asked if he had another wish, the men rubbed his face then asked Genie, can you help me understand my wife?. The Genie then replied, Would you like that 2 lane or 4 lane.

 

[kirkawilson]

 

[2LaneCruzer]

One question from a lady friend I could never find a pleasing answer to: "What are thinking about?" Uh oh.
I look back now and believe it was a clue from her saying "I'm bored, I think I'll pick a fight."

I can relate. When we were first married, there were times when I knew we were going to have a fight, I just didn't know yet what it was to be about.

 

[MoKelly]

A long time ago (we have been married 29 years) in another place, I was mowing the grass. I needed a break so I left the mower behind her car, went inside through the garage and got a beer.

She was in a hurry to go somewhere and got in her car —— and backed over the mower.

So, whose fault was that?

She was very upset. She was crying. I was holding a beer. At that instant, I realized it was 100% my fault. What did I have to gain to argue she was to blame? Would the mower come back to life?

I learned something that day and it wasn’t to never put the mower behind her car.

MoKelly

 

[dodge man]

Now that you have been married that long, if that happened today, you would know what to do. Go back inside and have another beer.

 

[MoKelly]

Now that you have been married that long, if that happened today, you would know what to do. Go back inside and have another beer.

Yes. First say, “it’s ok dear, it’s only a mower”. Then the beer.

MoKelly

 

[TheMan419]

Clearly if you had not left the UTE in the way of the delivery she would not have had to go move it and thus would not have left it on an toasted the battery. I mean the logic is all there. Just like when my wife backed my car out of the garage and took off the mirror. That is clearly my fault for parking the car wrong.

 

[bunyip]

Before retirement I profiled some of the coutries nastiest villains, knew what they were likely to do when confronted, predicted where they would likely turn up, identify likely victims, lectured those entering the field but nothing could prepare me for this illogical 'logic'.
Sadly this was only one instance, the mobile phone is a never ending source of frustration, if she has it with her it is either off or flat, when charged it remains on the bedside table or in my car.
She still believes it will ring when turned off and I gave up long ago attempting to explain that to her.
On one occassion she locked her keys in her car, called me and asked me to bring the spare keys then hun g up and turned it off, 2 hours later when she called to see where I was I got to ask where she was.
This was also my fault.

 

[buck12]

I have been happily married for 26 years. The best phrases a man can learn are: 1 yes dear 2 sorry 3 it is my fault.

 

[Hay Dude]

1. Maybe you are joking, I assume you are because you do not know my wife and me to make such a detailed observation. I have tried to get my wife to care about money and even understand where I have it invested and she has no interest whatsoever.

2. Why would you let someone screw up royally when it comes to money?

3. :rotfl:

Re: 1 yes I am, everyone here is so tense. You put personal info out there. A response wouldnt shock me :laughing: but one thing you didn’t mention was that she had no interest. That changes things a bit.
Re: 2 again, joking, but mildly serious. She does screw up a little here and there, but earns a nice living, so why get my nose out of joint about a $25 overdraw or a late payment here & there ? :confused2:
Re 3: again, jokingly, but I guess the 2 laughing emojis didnt clue you in :rotfl:

 

[Hay Dude]

A long time ago (we have been married 29 years) in another place, I was mowing the grass. I needed a break so I left the mower behind her car, went inside through the garage and got a beer.

She was in a hurry to go somewhere and got in her car —— and backed over the mower.

So, whose fault was that?

She was very upset. She was crying. I was holding a beer. At that instant, I realized it was 100% my fault. What did I have to gain to argue she was to blame? Would the mower come back to life?

I learned something that day and it wasn’t to never put the mower behind her car.

MoKelly

Reminds me of the time I was building a house for a customer about 15 years back. We were in the finishing stages and my tile sub was there tiling the bathrooms. Had his van parked on stone driveway. So later in the morning, my customer rolls up in his BMW and parks snugged up behind tile contractors van. Tile guy goes for lunch. Gets in van and backs up onto hood of BMW. Does like 10 grand in damage.
Who’s fault? Well it was all blamed on tile guy, but he had a point when he said, why would the customer park his car up tight behind a box truck like that? Stupid.
About 20 years ago, I stopped by my architects office to pick up some house prints. I was in my F800 dump. Parked it in a 200 space parking lot alone, with maybe 2 other cars in the entire lot. In the 2-3 minute time span I was in there, this dope parks his little 2 seat Miata directly behind me.:confused2: I get in the truck, throw in reverse and hit his hood. :cool2:

My wife likes her new BMW. She will park way out in the far reaches of a shopping center parking lot to avoid door dents. Inevitably, she will come out and theres another car parked right next to hers, even though there’s 1200 other spaces to chose from. :laughing: