While we all have different methods, there is a certain unwritten code of ethics between those that buy and sell often. The code is violated occasionally, but not too often. CL has introduced a bunch of rookies to buying and selling, and they have no clue. It changes things a lot, and we cannot expect the same "honor among thieves" with these folks. Honestly, they just don't know, it is new to them and often intimidating. It's a new world now with CL. You have to expect some surprises. It seems disrespectful, but is often just plain buying/selling ignorance.
People that get all upset by an offer, even a rediculous offer, aren't good sellers. That being said, our "code" says to not ask for an item to be held or otherwise obligate a seller if you are going to make a low offer. Our "code" also says that if a seller says FIRM, then you politely ask him if he would entertain an offer, but you do not make one unless they ask. Our "code" says that if you make an offer and it is accepted, you own it....you don't think about it, and you don't then make a lower offer. Our "code" says that if the item is silly cheap already, you don't take advantage of the person by offering even less. Our "code" says if you accept an offer and arrange for it to be picked up, you stand by that offer...no taking a little more from someone else and using the agreed upon offer as a safety net. "Code" says you don't denigrate an item disingenuously just to buy it cheaper, but it is OK to say "I will be a buyer at this price", or "I am only willing to pay this amount". "Code" says if you make an offer, you have the cash. We could go on and on. I bet for the most part the frequent buyers and sellers would agree on most of what I might list as our "code" if I wrote a book on it, not that I mean to say I am qualified to write such a book.
I guy recently offered me a silly amount for a tractor. Way below cost. An hour later we had his check in the drawer and were setting up delivery. Obviously had I got all insulted we would not have sold the tractor.
As to the censorship regarding language used in this thread, I think the mods were right to clean it up, even though it was surely not more than just coarse language. It's a slippery slope once you allow a little crude stuff. Better to just nip it right away. Just my opinion.