Honesty

[Diggin It]

Sometimes, when somebody gets planted in the ground, your only thought is 'Good!' Why is that seen by some others as wrong? I know that's what everyone will think when I go.

 

[blackdog2086]

Why is it people will talk about nasty S.O.B.'s telling it exactly how it is until they die? Then it's poor so and so he was such a great guy, he'll be missed. I have no problem saying exactly what I feel about someone, live or dead and it doesn't go over well most of the time. Probably why I could count my friends on the paw of a 3 toed sloth.

 

[BleedingOrange]

The older I get, the more I realize that dying, for some folks, may not be a bad thing. Many people suffer greatly daily, and are just barely alive. They are not living, but just barely existing. In the last 5 years or so, many people I have known have passed on, some will be missed, many others, who were, in my books, not good folks, not so much. If you believe in karma, it makes death for some, a deserving fate. Stretching the truth about someone that has passed on kinda makes those left behind feel good.

 

[riptides]

Every person has something good about them.

You just have to look harder for some.

 

[Dwellonroof]

Sometimes, when somebody gets planted in the ground, your only thought is 'Good!' Why is that seen by some others as wrong? I know that's what everyone will think when I go.

I think it's the way people are taught through sociality.
I was working on a VA site a few years back and said to someone that was on the same construction crew how most of these guys should get off drugs and get real jobs and instead of wanting all the freebies they can get; boy did I get chewed out for that.

I do believe in eternal life for everyone but it is their choice where they spend it.

 

[oosik]

I honestly try to be kind, thoughtful, encouraging and helpful. However - my mouth engages before my brain - some times. I have about the same number of friends as blackdog2086.

Our high school class had its 50th reunion in 2010. I didn't attend. When asked why - I gave a very honest answer. Three of my graduating classmates were my friends. Things had not changed in the intervening 50 years. Why would I want to attend a group gathering where 99% of the folks didn't like me. My answer, although honest, didn't go over well. I can visit my three friends any time I want.

 

[Diggin It]

When a cultist goes, I will not speak good of them no matter what else they've done that I may like or appreciate.

I

Will

Not.

 

[CobyRupert]

Some people make the world a better place and some people make it a worse. Positive vs negative.
You can “know” if the world is better or worse without them, however saying it out loud to other people (who may not have the same perspective) makes you the negative force in the world.

 

[MoKelly]

I guess when someone dies it doesn’t help anything or anyone to say bad or negative things. They are gone. It’s over.

You don’t have to go to the funeral. You don’t have to say anything.

Most often, saying nothing really says it all.

MoKelly

 

[ruffdog]

In today's society, many people demand that all people should say what is on their minds. You don't have to. Just say that your thoughts on a person are private and you wish to keep them that way. Two generations ago, most people didn't blab anything and everything that came into their heads. :muttering: