Honesty

[MossRoad]

Sometimes, when somebody gets planted in the ground, your only thought is 'Good!' Why is that seen by some others as wrong? I know that's what everyone will think when I go.

Not everyone.... just most of us! :laughing:

Just kidding. To answer your question of "Why is that seen by some others as wrong?" you first have to ask why your only thought was 'Good!'

Most of us were raised to wish no harm to others. If we're good with the fact that someone is dead, we then examine the reason why we're good.

If it's a negative reason, we feel guilt, sometimes even if the person was a lousy person by our own standards.

If it's a positive reason, like they were suffering with a terminal illness, we may feel remorse about feeling good it's over, even though we should be thankful their suffering is over.

So if someone dies, and we say to ourselves 'Good!', think about why it's good to you.

 

[oosik]

My Norwegian mother always told me - "If you can't say something nice about a person, don't say anything at all". I try to live by that rule. Sometimes I slip. However - my actions may speak louder than my words.

 

[PILOON]

Knew 2 brothers that were partners in a business together. (parents had set them up " to keep family together")

The one was the nicest most accommodating type guy.
The other would steal the shirt off your back, sell used as new make umpteen false warranty claims on new product they sold.
You name it, he did or tried it. (Like cash from till as needed)**

The nice guy passed with a smile while on vacation.*
The other lived on for many years and drove the the business bankrupt but grabbed any assets B4 so.
Dragged his parent's home and assets down as he he conned his way thru life.

Good bro had even co signed for bad bro along the way. (hey, he's my only bro)

We had early (fortunately) advised good wife to reneg the shares that she would have inherited as that would have had her responsible for all the debts. (she did)

Go figure, and if that business had been run 'legitimately' they'd both have been very wealthy today.

Greed and instant gratification does that to some.

*His wife claimed he smiled because he knew he was escaping the crazy loop he had been caught up in.
** He caught me twice in his sneaky plots, 1st might have been a misunderstanding but 2nd was deliberate con and could have been taken to court had it been documented.

Bad bro still lives on 15 yrs later.

 

[2LaneCruzer]

Hmmm. We're all human, and we should expect to act accordingly some times. I learned a long time ago, that troublesome, irrational people are, and always be, a blight on your life if you let them. I try to identify those people and get them out of my life as much as possible. There are a few that I do not miss, nor was I sorry to see them go...but I never wished death on them; only that they leave me alone and maybe see the light some day.

Another thing I learned a long time ago, is that bitterness, and carrying a grudge is self destructive. Get rid of it...and I don't necessarily mean forgive, nor forget. If you want forgiveness, then repent...and apologize...and then maybe I will forget.

 

[Diggin It]

My Norwegian mother always told me - "If you can't say something nice about a person, don't say anything at all". I try to live by that rule. Sometimes I slip. However - my actions may speak louder than my words.

I live by 'Say what you mean. Mean what you say.' I don't temper words on subjects I feel strongly about. While there are times I won't get into certain conversations face to face, if I do, I don't pull my words.

 

[ruffdog]

"Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out."

 

[Jstpssng]

I was taught that if you can't say anything good about somebody, don't say anything.


Edit; it appears I wasn't the first to say that.

 

[bcp]

Bruce

 

[Steppenwolfe]

Let's not equate honesty with truth, we all have our own truths that we live by. Honesty is recognizing the truth another lives by.

 

[Industrial Toys]

Yah. "He Was a Good Boy"

Reminds me of a documentary I saw about dealing with gunshot wounds. Army surgeons would train in Big City hospitals. Drug Dealer gets shot, family shows up and main priority is getting a hold of the pager the guy was carrying to continue the family business.