My Kub. 9540 does just as described as well. It is in the tractor side, not the attachment. Moving the buttons on the (dealer installed) 3rd function does open the solenoids, you can hear the clikking, but the pressure is not relieved. Get out the wrench and break the fittings! PITA.
JJ, if your reading, all my stuff is "flat face" and the "push the center ball trick" can not be done on this type, what does this needle valve look like that you have mentioned? Like you said, it's prolly only a teaspoon of fluid that prevents normal coupling.