Have you considered a Benelli ? I have the M1 , and I can literally shoot it one handed like a revolver,,
The use of recoil to cycle the action absorbs much of the felt recoil.
"The Benelli M1 semi-automatic shotgun based on the proprietary Benelli system, which utilizes the gun recoil and inertia of the moving parts to operate the action. This system was developed by Benelli by the mid-1980s, and is simple and reliable in operation. "
Try one of these before you commit to .410,,,
The reason I bought the M1 was that the recoil cycling allowed any type of ammo without adjustment,
You can load bird shot, 00 Buck, slugs, #4,, all without adjustment,,
Mine will hold nine (yes, 9 ) shells,,,