Calling Dr. Phil!

Farmwithjunk · Oct 17, 2005

Or any other self-professed marriage councelors. I NEED HELP!

I bought my farm back in the late 70's. It seemed quite adaquate. Nice place, good ground, couple big barns, nice older home. And a HAPPY wife.

But civilization started encroaching upon my happiness.

SO... We decided to buy another place that came up for sale. My son would move into our old house, and take care of the day to day chores there. Our new place is only 15 minutes further "out-of-town", but MUCH more rural atmosphere.

It has a new barn, and a couple older ones, again, good land, and an adorable little house. Perfect for the two of us. New kitchen cabinets, new hardwood floors, fireplace, new furnace and A-C. New roof. New windows (Pella Rollscreens) New doors. New everything in the bathroom. Exterior is brick, with trim all in vinyl. (NO PAINTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) Brick walks. Stone bordered flower beds. 3 car detached garage. The place looks to be a dream!

Then we started moving.

The home we lived in was mine BEFORE I met my wife. When I left my parents home, I moved in this place. 32 years without ever moving.

Now this.

All this leads to one question. How many times should I re-arrange a room before reaching the "domestic violence" stage?

I THOUGHT I knew my wife. 29 years of marriage, 2 kids, 5 grandkids, and all that goes with it.

Seems she was keeping one thing from me. She's SATAN when it comes time to move.

Anyone have a suggestion? (be specific. state caliper of weapon)

I feel better already. Thanks for letting me rant!

PhilNH5 · Oct 17, 2005

After our 15th anniversary I announced a new rule. I would no longer attempt to move furniture into spaces in which it would not fit. My wife is lousy with spatial relations. She would want to see that the sofa was to big. So I would have to move it to prove to her it truly is to big. We are talking ludicrous measurements here. The rule came about when she asked me to put a 7 foot sofa next to the fireplace in a spot just vacated by a wingbacked chair. Both my daughter and I looked at her like she was nuts. How could she posibbly think the 7 ft sofa would fit in a 4 ft spot. She did not beleive us. So we moved it and of course it did not fit. Hence the rule - If I tell you a piece of furniture, appliance, rock or what ever is tobig I will not move it to prove it.
It has made my life much easier. But I still have to move stuff to "see how it looks"

Phi (not a Dr)

Farmwithjunk · Oct 17, 2005

It's all our fault you know. We're the ones who married 'em.

When I first met my wife, she warned me that her father was "plum nuts". I know why now. He had to deal with her (and her 11 sisters, plus their mother) for 18 years already.

The man should have been cannonized as a saint. (His miracle was surviving 12 daughters)

Jagmandave · Oct 17, 2005

I had to institute a furniture rule too. "Nothing new comes into the house unless something old goes out" otherwise I'd be living in the garage, cause there's no more room in the house.

Funny tho, how time changes things. The other day she said "You know those old bookcases in the basement that I just couldn't part with for the last 10 years? I've decided I'm not quite as attached to them as I thought"

Progress at last!

PS I bought my wife her own retractable tape measure, she takes it with her when she goes shopping now - it helps her keep from buying something that's too big for the space.

Farmwithjunk · Oct 17, 2005

Now there's an idea!

My new shop has all the comforts of home. TV (w/ Dish), stereo, 'fridge, microwave, woodstove, office has AC, and my old Lazy Boy that the Mrs. said can't come in "HER" new house.

Maybe I'll just move to the garage!

Bird · Oct 17, 2005

Your problem sounds like a perfectly normal situation to me. Having been married to the same woman now for 40 years, and having moved a few times, I've accepted the fact that it's normal. You're just learning later in life because you haven't moved before. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

TonyV · Oct 17, 2005

Lets be realistic about this FWJ...you were only led to believe that the other house was yours after all these years. Take my advice...stake your claim in one of your new barns and make it your own. If she REALLY need your help with something...she'll know where to come lookin'. /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif

...Tony

MossRoad · Oct 17, 2005

Buy her a tractor. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

ByronBob · Oct 17, 2005

My rule goes along the line of 1 thing comes into the house, then 1 thing must go out of the house. It's working. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

buckle97 · Oct 17, 2005

My rule goes along the line of 1 thing comes into the house, then 1 thing must go out of the house. 

Unfortunately, my wife has imposed a similar rule upon me. For every vehicle I buy, I must sell one /forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif.

Lawrence

rozett · Oct 17, 2005

( My rule goes along the line of 1 thing comes into the house, then 1 thing must go out of the house. It's working. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif )

I would be afraid that my wife would come home with a new couch and select ME as the one thing that must go out of the house. /forums/images/graemlins/shocked.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

rozett · Oct 17, 2005

( Having been married to the same woman now for 40 years, and having moved a few times,.... /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif )

Congratulations, Bird (and to the lovely Mrs. Bird /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif )!! In todays world, that is quite an accomplishment.

pennwalk · Oct 17, 2005

For every vehicle I buy, I must sell one 

By golly I hope you went to the ASPCH with that cause thats cruel. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

Chris

pennwalk · Oct 17, 2005

Anyone have a suggestion 

The nicest thing my wife did for me the last time we moved was hire movers. /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif My back felt great and I thought the move went very smoothly. I don't know what the movers thought. /forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

Chris

Farmwithjunk · Oct 18, 2005

( Your problem sounds like a perfectly normal situation to me. Having been married to the same woman now for 40 years, and having moved a few times, I've accepted the fact that it's normal. You're just learning later in life because you haven't moved before. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif )

NORMAL? You've never met my wife. The word normal would never enter the conversation if you had.

But I guess that's about normal, isn't it?

riptides · Oct 18, 2005

I have had great success focusing my attention on OUT buildings while the misses does the house thingy. As a matter of fact, even the kids are gravitating to the OUT buildings.

This last move, after 15 years in one place, going from a modern household to a dilapidated farm, was handled by professional movers. BEST move we ever made. Pun intended.

-Mike Z. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

Youare · Oct 18, 2005

My wife an I moved into the house I purchased just before we were married and it's been 31 years of all the experiences of two different people trying to live together. There have been several occasions when I didn't know if my wife was going to commit homicide or suicide.

She was pretty good about trying to move things around herself but when it came to not having room she thought it was inexpensive and easy to just add on to the house or raise the roof two inches or maybe push a wall out a foot or so to make things fit.

The method that finally had some measure of success was graph paper. I would make a scaled outline of the room in question and I made some templates of the furniture she could move around on paper. It took some time for her to understand the space required between things but it saved moving heavy stuff several times.

Once she tried moving the piano and found out how heavy it is for herself that slowed down some of it's movement. For several years things remained pretty much in place but when those natural changes began to take place in her body stuff began to move again in a very random manner.

I have found that my wife listens to one of our son's input better than she does mine, so I suggest that she talk it over with one of them first. That kind of gets me off the hook sometimes. The law of averages says that sooner or later she will get things just where she wants you to put them.

Randy

HGM · Oct 18, 2005

Spend as much time as possible in the woods, hunting, running the tractor, whatever.......

A golf club would be much more gratifying, besides the anti gunners dont need any more ammo.... /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

HGM · Oct 18, 2005

The comments above are meant for comic value and are in no way intended to reflect the opinions of TBN or anyone involved. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif