Cheap date

[randy41]

If a coffee shop is not good, since I assume this might not be a breakfast date, I think a sandwich shop would be good. Maybe something a little nicer than Subway, but it wouldn't cost more, and would also be a less crowded location, so conducive to conversation. Lunch dates usually want a little lighter meal, so a sandwich, (or soup and sandwich with the cold weather most of us are having) would be perfect, IMO.

Sorry to interfere, if you just wanted guy advice.

you're not interfering. all advice is helpful. it seems like for first meetings with someone the coffee meetup would be good. for someone i already know it should probably be more than that.

 

[farmgirl19]

If it is for supper, if there is an old style pizza parlor around, that could be fun, and also a little different. It also lets both of you get what you want, as you can get a half and half pizza, if y'all don't like the same things for toppings.

edit: And from a female perspective, I wouldn't want to go to an expensive or fancy place. That would make one feel that they were being "bought" in that the guy would be "expecting" more than a meal date, after the meal was finished.

Something better than fast food, but not too fancy. If something a little different available, all the better. If a girl gets to a certain age, and hasn't learned the value of a dollar, and how hard they are to come by, you probably don't want her anyway! JMO

 

[bullbreaker]

edit: And from a female perspective, I wouldn't want to go to an expensive or fancy place. That would make one feel that they were being "bought" in that the guy would be "expecting" more than a meal date, after the meal was finished.
JMO

Your not talking about "desert" are you ? :laughing:



Boone

 

[farmgirl19]

Your not talking about "desert" are you ? :laughing:



Boone

In a way....Yes. :laughing:

 

[luvmexfood]

Good one.

Your not talking about "desert" are you ? :laughing:



Boone

 

[randy41]

i guess there's some irony here in that one of the women i'm going to ask out probably earns 3 or 4 times as much a year as i do. maybe separate checks will work. then there's no pressure on the woman. anyway, if you go out to dinner with someone you already know and the chemistry is there why wouldn't you both want 'desert'?

 

[nc redneck]

I believe and polls say women like alpha males. The ones who can hunt and provide food, in today's society it equals the ones with a lot of money. Put your best foot forward. Drive your best truck and buy new clothes for dates.

 

[farmgirl19]

i guess there's some irony here in that one of the women i'm going to ask out probably earns 3 or 4 times as much a year as i do. maybe separate checks will work. then there's no pressure on the woman. anyway, if you go out to dinner with someone you already know and the chemistry is there why wouldn't you both want 'desert'?

If you already know the woman, and y'all both want "dessert", there is no problem. But then, there would be no problem with having one over and cooking a neat meal, and if she likes the kitchen, she can help, and y'all can visit/talk, etc. during food preparation. I thought you were asking about meeting someone new, and even meeting halfway, if she lived far.

I'm not making a judgement call on if you "should or shouldn't" have dessert, but if you don't know her, a fancy or expensive place might make her uncomfortable. That's all that I am saying. Might not be something a guy would consider.

I guess that I am not being very helpful.

 

[/pine]

i'm newly single and i'm going to start dating. but going out seems really expensive these days. i'm not poor but i don't want to become so. I'm a good cook but i think for at least a first date i would want to go out somewhere. i'm 63. i live way out of town and when i factor in the gas to go pick up someone and then go to a restaurant and then do the reverse a date will cost at least $75. what do guys do to keep dating from busting the budget?

You say you live "way out of town"...you have to buy groceries etc...check and see if there is any type of "senior center" in your county...they often arrange covered dish suppers. fish fries etc. and other social activities...likewise with local churches (been mentioned)...

companionship is human nature..."seek and ye shall find"...

Good luck...BTW...'farmgirl19' has offered some very sage advice...IMO...

 

[JD 4520]

If you already know the woman, and y'all both want "dessert", there is no problem. But then, there would be no problem with having one over and cooking a neat meal, and if she likes the kitchen, she can help, and y'all can visit/talk, etc. during food preparation. I thought you were asking about meeting someone new, and even meeting halfway, if she lived far.

I'm not making a judgement call on if you "should or shouldn't" have dessert, but if you don't know her, a fancy or expensive place might make her uncomfortable. That's all that I am saying. Might not be something a guy would consider.

I guess that I am not being very helpful.

Randy - you might want to give more value to the advice provided by farmgirl19. She has the code...been married for 30 years and have to admit she is right on.

 

[randy41]

If you already know the woman, and y'all both want "dessert", there is no problem. But then, there would be no problem with having one over and cooking a neat meal, and if she likes the kitchen, she can help, and y'all can visit/talk, etc. during food preparation. I thought you were asking about meeting someone new, and even meeting halfway, if she lived far.


I guess that I am not being very helpful.

well i think you are helpful. i also agree about the fancy/expensive place which is beyond my means (cheapness) anyway. i'm kind of a quiet laid back guy and i think the women i know already know that about me. for those that don't know me (if i ever go that route)i will keep your good advice in mind.

 

[murphy1244]

you might want to give more value to the advice provided by farmgirl19. She has the code...been married for 30 years and have to admit she is right on.

Farm Girl, You been married for 30years? How about that.:confused3:

 

[Jim Shooz]

i guess there's some irony here in that one of the women i'm going to ask out probably earns 3 or 4 times as much a year as i do. maybe separate checks will work. then there's no pressure on the woman. anyway, if you go out to dinner with someone you already know and the chemistry is there why wouldn't you both want 'desert'?

If you're the one doing the asking out, YOU PAY. Doesn't matter how much the other person has/earns. It's the right and proper thing to do.

 

[farmgirl19]

If you're the one doing the asking out, YOU PAY. Doesn't matter how much the other person has/earns. It's the right and proper thing to do.

If it is a "date", I agree. I think going out as friends can be fun, and a chance to get to know someone better, without all of the pressure and hoopla. And sometimes, a really good friendship, with someone of the opposite ***, can be better than a romance! (Of course, they do sometimes morph. )

Wrong time of year, but carnivals, fairs, tractor events, airshows, hot rod shows, flea markets, Craft shows, antique malls, etc., can all be fun to attend, and there is something to see, and price of admission is usually cheap enough too. Some of us prefer walking around to sitting, so that gives options there.

 

[ustmd]

:laughing:Even thought I have been married 22 years, getting some good advice. My wife and I talk about how neither of us would know how to date anymore...I mean where else would either of us find a person who thinks drinking beer, eating nachos while sitting on the couch watching HGTV is a date.:laughing:

 

[oldballs]

Us old folks can get some really cheap dates while eating at the county service center....only costs a couple bucks. There's a lot of wrinkled up old prune faces there....mine included. Was married 48 years but she passed on 5 years ago. Dating is a fantasy now, so guess I'd better "Get Real".:laughing:

 

[NoTrespassing]

so yes i'm all over this. how much younger are you talking here? i know a woman i want to date who is 39. i have more in common with her than with the 50 something other woman i want to date.

My wife is 20 years younger than I am. It's worked out great for over 6 years now. One thing that may be noteworthy, she's not American and she's very down to earth Our idea of eating out is McDonalds drivethru $1 menu. She's almost as thrifty as I am.

 

[tcreeley]

Pick a poor lady to date if money is an object. She will be used to doing without.

 

[randy41]

this song is my idea of a cheap date.

It Is What It Is Kacey Musgraves lyrics - YouTube

 

[rednecks wife]

Get a younger chick. The relationship/marriage might not last but you will have lot of fun while it does.
On serious note: I was matched to my current wife by a mutual friend who figured out we could be good for each other. I took her to Japanese restaurant on our first date (no music there), then I installed a dishwasher for her on our second date (that impressed her), she was great help while remodeling a basement to a play room for a coworker on our third date (that impressed me) and we ordered Chinese take home and ended up in bed together on the fourth date. We had 21 years wedding anniversary last week.
What I want say is that people who know both of you might have good judgment if you would fit together.

When I met Redneck in Training he had 5000 in debt and I had 10,000 debt, newly divorced with 2 young children so you can imagine how cheap were our dates! :mischievous: IMHO its never about how fancy or expensive the dates but how you treat your woman. Most woman I know would love to have a man who really listens to her (at least sometimes ), is kind and helpful, and "has her back"

But Randy41, it doesn't hurt to impress her a little bit....so don't be too cheap!!!:laughing:
Rednecks "young wife"