I called a local steel supplier, and they said they didn't have anything like DOM tubing. Apparently, it is a specialty item. They suggested one local specialty metals supplier, who isn't answering their phone, so I think I'm going to have to end up ordering online. It's a shame to pay shipping for steel, but what can you do?
Likewise, the bucket on my Bobcat has bosses on both sides of the ears. On the inside, there is approximately a 2" tube that encloses the pin, through which a retaining bolt runs. On the outside, there is approximately 1/4" of additional tubing extending out of the 1/4" side plate, for a total of about 1/2" of bearing surface.