Interesting conversation on girls with my 16 year old boy

[Sigarms]

Driving my one 16 year old boy home from his part time job the other night, this is where we sometimes have our better conversations.

Asked him if he was "dating" anyone, and he said no.

Honestly, he's a good looking kid, 6'1 and still growing, lean, braces now off, perfect teeth, speaks well for himself on various subjects he enjoys, and it always seems like some girl has some interest in him for the last 2 years (I still don't understand how 15 and 16 year olds "date" LOL). Doesn't seem to hurt that he actually is kind of odd for he age in that he likes to wear button dress shirts, dress pants and shoes, and even thinks it's cool to wear a fedora with a overcoat outside because his grandfather introduced him to the hat and the likes of Frank Sinatra and Bing Crosby (his brother on the other hand wants to go with the redneck look LOL).

Well, for the last 7 months, there was one particular girl who was very interested in him. He spent time over her house, invited to her birthday party, and her dad liked him because he (my son) knew about older non digital cameras, and her mom would come over to our house to pick him up.

Thing is, for like 3 months they would be on the phone it seemed like every night. He denied she was his "girlfriend" but I couldn't understand why they spent so much time talking to each other at night. Then for Valentines day this year, he was "informed" by this girl that he was her valentine and she was his valentine, and it seemed they were now officially dating because she gave him a nice drawing for valentines day she did herself, that seemed kind of personal to me at least.

Then the middle of this month, my wife informed me that they broke up, and when I asked him about this girl couple of weeks ago (because this breakup was news to me), he informed me that she broke up with him and he didn't really know why. He didn't seem like he was overly affected by this, not even bummed out at all if you will.

So, driving home the other night, I told him I thought that this girl was a very peculiar relationship from what I had observed in that they spent a lot of time talking on the phone and he spending time over at her house, and that she was the one who told him they were now officially dating, and then she was the one who broke up the relationship. Kind of like he really didn't do anything in this relationship but be friends with the girl.

My boy just looked at me and told me "dad, I was just along for the ride, and I had no clue what was going on". We both broke out laughing pretty hard.

I told him that's why he should wait until he's at least 30 until he wants to settle down and he knows what he wants out of life and even after being married, you can still feel the same way at times about "being along for the ride and having no clue" LOL

 

[sandman2234]

Conversations with young men or young ladies can always be interesting! We have the advantage of hindsight, but our understanding of the opposite *** still has huge voids!
David from jax

 

[MossRoad]

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My boy just looked at me and told me "dad, I was just along for the ride, and I had no clue what was going on". We both broke out laughing pretty hard.

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[TractorGuy]

My granddaughter is 13 and at the stage she doesn't want to talk to adults. We had her and one of her friends at the house yesterday and was asking them if they wanted to eat outside with us or in the house. They both stood there bobbing their heads and not saying anything. I told my daughter she could just get a couple of bobble head dolls and she wouldn't have to feed or clothe them. The two girls just smiled so we made the decision for them and told them to stay inside away from us.

They sat inside chattering away until an adult walked in and they clammed up. Kind of worrisome.

 

[MoKelly]

They sat inside chattering away until an adult walked in and they clammed up. Kind of worrisome.

Hopefully it’s all OK.

13 year olds girls can be at that awkward stage. They don’t have lots of self confidence. They need to be liked and don’t want to say the wrong thing. They want to be with friends rather than older folks.

It’s not easy being 13.

MoKelly

 

[Industrial Toys]

This constant communication world young people engage in has put Males at a serious disadvantage.

What most men fail to realize is that a man has to be a challenge to a woman. You can't go to a date, here are the flowers, I love you, let's get married. A woman will go running, looking for a "challenge", and a mystery. And a man must never stop being a challenge. What a woman loves to do best is wonder about a man. Like picking the pedals off a daisy. He loves me, he loves me not.

So anyway, all this communication takes the whole challenge thing out of it. Women can seperate the wheat from the chaff much easier and decide who will be friend zoned and who will be ricipient of the goodies.

 

[Industrial Toys]

I hate to admit, I was often that kid that dreamt up stuff for others to do. Can't say if it was lack of courage to do it myself or just smart enough not to. Probably a bit of both.

When it comes to matters of Romance. Women are in fighter jet, men are in wright brothers plane. We owe it to our young men, to educate them and not just let them get slaughtered.

 

[i7win7]

You-tubers Coach Greg Adams and Donavan Sharpe may provide some useful insights to a young man

 

[Industrial Toys]

One particularly colorfull mens relationship coach commented. The Miranda rights , "anything you say can and will be used against you" was meant to be applied first to women. Talk to a woman long enough on your cell phone, before you know her and YOU WILL say something to disqualify yourself.

 

[oosik]

I'm glad my son is now past his teens and 20's. Communication during those times could be a tad difficult and strained. Everything has turned out fine but I can still remember some times ........

 

[Sigarms]

Young males not gonna listen. Dey know everything & got DEVICE. More better just sit comfortable & grin. Boy got any smart he come ask why you grinnin and ask fer advice.

This is the biggest difference in what I see different between my two boys.

My one boy will come and ask why you're grinning, the other boy will TELL you why your grinning.

 

[Thomas]

" "dad, I was just along for the ride, and I had no clue what was going on". We both broke out laughing pretty hard."
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Your son fast learner by the sounds should pretty well in life.

 

[Sigarms]

" "dad, I was just along for the ride, and I had no clue what was going on". We both broke out laughing pretty hard."
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Your son fast learner by the sounds should pretty well in life.

He is fast learner and actually listens to advice.

I hate to say this, but his brother is completely opposite, seems to know everything and you can't tell him anything. It can drive me up a wall at times.

Both 16.

One who may drive too slow at times (the one who listens) and one drives too fast (one who has everything figured out).

God only knows how they will turn out as young men, just hope He looks out for them.

 

[Sigarms]

I'm glad my son is now past his teens and 20's. Communication during those times could be a tad difficult and strained. Everything has turned out fine but I can still remember some times ........

I had the same conversation with my dad in the kitchen the other day.

When I was a teen, we wanted to kill each other. Fact is, like Mr. Twain, I was amazed at how much my dad learned when I hit my mid 20's.

My one boy who seems to know everything kind of reminds me of myself when I was his age, so I'm holding out hope.

That said, I was ready to kill him (figuratively speaking of course) yesterday after he bought his $800 truck. Radio dosen't work in his "new" truck, so he asks me with a serious look, that since I don't drive my truck that often other than for work around the house, if he could take the radio out of my truck and put my raido in his truck (he had the radio out of his truck and was ready with screwdrivers in hand to work on my radio). Perhaps I should consider myself lucky that he had enough smarts to ask first LOL

 

[Tinhack]

The fact he's being "taxied around" is a big clue for me. It was different when I entered HS (at age 14). I had a part-time job, my driver's license and a car. A "beater" by todays standards but it was a way around and it ran and looked pretty good for it's age. But a 12 year old car back then was worth $50-$250 depending on the make/model.

My first was a 52 Chevy Coupe and a bargain at $50. But it was MINE. I drove it to school, work and on dates--As long as I stuck to the rules and the curfew. Usually 9pm for the girl and 9:30pm for me. When we were seniors, it got bumped to 10 and 10:30. I was allowed 30 minutes past her curfew.

By the way; Even at 30 I didn't know what was going on. Still don't at 70.

 

[Frankenkubota]

I would urge any young man to listen to as many original delta blues songs as possible.

 

[woody]

At 62 I'm still just along for the ride, and I have no clue what was going on".

 

[PuffyC]

This seems to be how kids date these days for reasons unknown. They don't go on dates and never say they're dating when they are, there are no girlfriends or boyfriends as they're all "just friends" even though they're not, and breaking up via text message is the norm and never a big deal even though it is. In most cases it seems the parents only know it's serious when they suddenly announce they're living together which is common, or that they're getting married which fewer and fewer seem terribly interested in these days. There are exceptions of course but that's been my experience raising 3 kids and knowing all their friends.

 

[JethroB]

When I turned 16 forty five years ago the top issues were:

Drivers license .. check
Car .. 20 year old Jeep
Cash .. sometimes
Beer. .
Girlfriend ... what a beauty

 

[Industrial Toys]

I couldn't wait and got the girl first. Still a friend of mine all these years later.

Man sometimes I wish I had a time machine!

When girls were play toys and they came without any baggage or cell phones! I'l take that over a car any day! lol