ok i want to thank everyone for their comments, negative (towards my attitude) or positive (sympathy for my situation), as well as all the recommendations to look at the positive side. this is a public forum where we have the right to express our opinions though i think some of the responses are borderline against AUP agreement you signed when you entered this forum. at any rate, yes i was upset, it was just hours after hearing about the work that was going to happen. i have since settled down and am working on a plan to ensure that my property is protected. to those that were clearly set off by my original have you never done something to irritate your neighbor? i beleive most of us suffer from the same problem, such as "why am i the only good driver on the road??". i enjoy the land and respect it and actually make the forest a better place for example, by picking up trash others leave behind, so yes, even though i don't "own" it, i am proud of it and it's sad to see it go, but it is what it is, and i'll adapt and do what i can to make my property even better.
btw the surveyors have since been back and have marked trees which are clearly on my side of the property line and these are some of the biggest. we have a call into the manager to figure out exactly what all these markings mean - there is blue paint, orange ribbons, some of the trees have been "checked". also they do not thin here it's clearcut or no cut, i have seen it firsthand on the same property but further from us. this is also on a very steep mountain slope on which i am at the bottom so you'd better beleive i am concerned about runoff but more that that, potential for slides. they do not leave buffers because of the belief that if a tree falls onto neighboring property they are liable. i don't agree because they are liable now but anyway.
so again to those that sympathize, shared their own frustration, or offered advice thank you.