I have a son in his late 20's that is an addict. Not opioids, but another drug. Wife and I are both in counseling to learn how to deal with him with a counselor who specializes with families of addicts.
Kid refuses to work. Just stays high all the time. Wants a free ride. Currently homeless, broke, and yelling and screaming at everyone in the family to give him money. He needs help for this, he needs help for that. Its everybody else's fault that he's in this situation. He hasn't worked in over 2 years and his wife left him a year ago and supporting him for a year prior to that when he decided he didn't need to work anymore. And dealing with a bunch of verbal abuse when she told him he needed to get a damb job. That's not counting the yelling and calling us a piece of ***** or worse, after we fill up his tank on his truck. Because we didn't give him cash.
And the worst part, his drug of choice is pot with a side order of booze. And he's a mean drunk.l. Absolutely refuses to take responsibility for himself. All he wants to do is get high and play video games. I could keep going since there's a bunch more that he's done to us, his soon to be ex wife, and the rest of the family over the past year.
The point I'm trying to make, is we had to cut him off completely. He asks for help, we inform him the only thing we will help him with, is we will pay for in-patient rehab and counseling when he's ready. Your not getting anything else from us.
It's hard to have compassion, even when it's your own kid, after you've dealt with being verbally abused for over a year because you won't support them or their habits.
The conversation went down hill from there