The next time you are pulling your trailer try pumping your brakes and then stop and see if that changes the stopping power. If so then it could be things the rear brakes being out of adjustment, the flexible brake lines expanding, and/ or air in the system. If pumping doesn't seam to have a big impact then I think I would look into converting the rear over to disc. These guys seam to make a reasonably priced kit to convert the rear. It looks like for less than $500.
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The kit uses a brake caliper from a Chevy. They say a pair will cost you $300 but a simple look at Rock auto shows you can get a pair of them for $150 plus shipping. The brackets ($80), the chevy rotors with an enlarged center hole ($90) and brake lines that have the correct fittings to connect to a chevy caliper and a toyota fitting is pretty much all you need. Other than that you'll need to connect the parking brake cable to the chevy caliper. I haven't called them to confirm that they will work with a tundra. It looks like the installation requires the modification of the steel plate that the brake shoes mount to and connecting the parking brake cable to the chevy caliper. I would think someone handy with tools could do it themselves or a shop could do the work in a couple of hours.