LD1, you know what you're doing. There has been some good new information in this thread, and I do think you should upsize your conduit bigger than 1/2" at least for the main runs, but it's clear you have the basics and theory right.
In this situation, I agree with you that you should bond neutral and ground in your main panel, as you already plan to do. The only time you would not do that is if you were putting in a *feeder* circuit to an outbuilding with a sub panel, in which case you'd still have ground rods at the outbuilding, but would leave neutral and ground unbonded in the sub panel. Since your building is fed by a service feed with a meter and a main panel, that main panel is the right place to bond neutral and ground and tie in ground rods. Anyone suggesting otherwise is not understanding or reading the facts right.