N80
Super Member
I think that has more to do with hindsight and the nature of regret. If my B-I-L had a crystal ball and could see that his daughter was going to fall off the tractor and be killed, I suspect he'd sell the farm and move to the oh-so-safe and comfortable suburbs like me.
By the same token, if that actually happened, he would certainly regret it and wish that he'd never let his kids do farm work. But with that type of regret, which involves blame and guilt, only the bad outcome is considered. There is no longer room for the rational consideration about taking those risks in order to live the way they do.
And truth be told, my son and daughter (and me and my wife) help out on their farm quite frequently.
So if he, or I had to make the decision to give up the way of life that they have (and that I sometimes share in) in order to safeguard against every possibility of risk, I think we'd both decide that that lifestyle is far richer than the one most of us live and is worth that risk.
By the same token, if that actually happened, he would certainly regret it and wish that he'd never let his kids do farm work. But with that type of regret, which involves blame and guilt, only the bad outcome is considered. There is no longer room for the rational consideration about taking those risks in order to live the way they do.
And truth be told, my son and daughter (and me and my wife) help out on their farm quite frequently.
So if he, or I had to make the decision to give up the way of life that they have (and that I sometimes share in) in order to safeguard against every possibility of risk, I think we'd both decide that that lifestyle is far richer than the one most of us live and is worth that risk.