Proposed update to front porch forum rules

[jaxs]

Could be a good idea. Hard to do in print otherwise I'd guess. Some threads get so off track with people correcting spelling errors or splitting hairs about simple questions, sounds more like a bunch of wimmen getting their hair done rather than guys you'd sit and have a bier with... Anyone see my slippers?

Yup! There's limitless opportunities for stirring the pot if one is always on alert when they arise. Notice how some hopped on metaphors in this thread.
IMO online froums sometimes atract individuals seeking to make a fool of someone because they lack courage to try it in face to face coffee clubs and feed store geatherings. That statement is unsavory but harmless unless a name appear's in place of the word "individuals" or someone choose's to see themselves the subject. Dare I say a bad apple can spoil the whole barrel? I say let admin make the rules and how to inforce them or put it up for vote. If there's any amoung us that believe all preceptions of unequal treatment can be totally eleminted,they are already destined for disappointment.

 

[JDZ735M]

Lol, how many posts per day on this forum?

He doesn't have to read every post. He just has to address the complaints. Sometimes that might involve "addressing' the complainer.

 

[JDZ735M]

800-1000. Easy!

You don't have to read every post to 'moderate' the Front Porch.

 

[jaxs]

Youd be surprised what people can dig up on others.

Yes sir,and that's one of many reason's for treating iterweb buds like we want to be treated. Hard to imagine how it feel's being tapped on the shoulder and asked "are the the one who call's himself Tater Salad"?

 

[Root Cause]

Good policing targets the worst offenders AND lets the rest see the punishment. Then the rest police themselves.

 

[K5lwq]

Why not just treat each other with respect even if you know they are wrong? Then it would be easy for someone to moderate.

 

[Hay Dude]

Why not just treat each other with respect even if you know they are wrong? Then it would be easy for someone to moderate.

Thats optimistic thinking, but not realistic. Unfortunately, most of us have been taught to treat each other disrespectfully. Many times, without even knowing the person as is often seen in on-line forums.
For example: A thread was started about Tom Brady retiring and within the first 2-3 pages of the thread, it turns into people calling each other “liars” and having “no character”.
We all fall into that trap from time to time, some worse than others.

I agree we should all treat each other with respect, but thats wishful thinking.

 

[ovrszd]

Unfortunately, most of us have been taught to treat each other disrespectfully.

That's not true. Elements in our society might have that agenda. But society doesn't.

 

[K5lwq]

Thats optimistic thinking, but not realistic. We as a society have been taught to treat each other disrespectfully.

I was taught to treat others with respect. I also was taught that I am responsible for my actions not the actions of others. The focus unfortunately is more on rights instead of responsibility.

However, I will treat you with respect and you can treat me with disrespect. It doesn’t bother me in the least.

 

[sree251]

We tried no moderation in friendly politics. It was out of control. If members can't be respectful, they should take it somewhere else like fb.

I don't understand the need to control. Whatever for? It's just nothing more than a good old bar fight except that nobody gets physically hurt. It's seems that we have become pansies who can't even deal with a harsh word let alone a pillow fight.

 

[Hay Dude]

I was taught to treat others with respect. I also was taught that I am responsible for my actions not the actions of others. The focus unfortunately is more on rights instead of responsibility.

However, I will treat you with respect and you can treat me with disrespect. It doesn’t bother me in the least.

So was I! But unfortunately, many were not. Society is much coarser than it used to be. It would have to be moderated carefully for those who just attack you because of what brand of truck or tractor you drive, the engine configuration you prefer, the teams you like, “Richard” being called “D*ck”, etc.
Its just going to get carried away and turn into a circus without moderation.
I would prefer it weren’t that way, but it is.

 

[sea2summit]

That's not true. Elements in our society might have that agenda. But society doesn't.

Not sure if that’s meant to be funny, but responding that way to that post made me laugh.

 

[sea2summit]

I don't understand the need to control. Whatever for? It's just nothing more than a good old bar fight except that nobody gets physically hurt. It's seems that we have become pansies who can't even deal with a harsh word let alone a pillow fight.

Well when you own the bar you have to pick up the pieces, get rid of problem customers, then attract new customers. It’s a hard line between letting the boys be boys and keeping an establishment where folks want to come in and have a $5 beer.

 

[sea2summit]

So was I! But unfortunately, many were not. Society is much coarser than it used to be. It would have to be moderated carefully for those who just attack you because of what brand of truck or tractor you drive, the engine configuration you prefer, the teams you like, etc.
I would prefer it weren’t that way, but it is.

Well if you’d just give me that big red tractor for disposal you wouldn’t get made fun of for it.

 

[ovrszd]

So was I! But unfortunately, many were not. Society is much coarser than it used to be. It would have to be moderated carefully for those who just attack you because of what brand of truck or tractor you drive, the engine configuration you prefer, the teams you like, “Richard” being called “D*ck”, etc.
Its just going to get carried away and turn into a circus without moderation.
I would prefer it weren’t that way, but it is.

How about if I call you Hay ***** rather than Hay Dude, is that okay?

 

[Torvy]

Why not just treat each other with respect even if you know they are wrong? Then it would be easy for someone to moderate.

Because some of those @#$$^ drive the wrong color tractor...and doggone it, they need to be put in their place! (This is me attempting humor)

I have friends with whom biting comments are part of our banter. Others may see it as disrespectful, but if they said something to us in public, we would tell them to mind their own business. If the person to whom the comment is directed doesn't care, why should anyone else?

Other friends don't play that way and comments are more benign, if a tad bland.

We used to have a phrase about sticks and stones, but that no longer seems to apply either.

My long-winded point here is that some of us treat each other as friends. That treatment may not look the same depending on the friendship. If the complainer is not the person to whom the comment is directed, just move on. At the same time, if the complainer is that object of the comment, send a PM or reply to the author first. It may be just the two have different communication styles. Ultimately, be nice, but don't get worked up about others.

 

[ovrszd]

Not sure if that’s meant to be funny, but responding that way to that post made me laugh.

Initial response to my theory is humor.

But if considered on a personal level it becomes apparent that our society is determined by our personal actions. We as a society have forgotten that. Personal accountability is lacking in our society today. Sad.

 

[sea2summit]

Initial response to my theory is humor.

But if considered on a personal level it becomes apparent that our society is determined by our personal actions. We as a society have forgotten that. Personal accountability is lacking in our society today. Sad.

It is a absolutely a personal responsibility and choice in my opinion. But, also in my opinion, the societal influences outside of religious and family inputs are nearly completely counter to that. Troubling for my generation but scary for the next generation…also in my opinion.

 

[sree251]

However, I will treat you with respect and you can treat me with disrespect. It doesn’t bother me in the least.

If it doesn't bother you, then you are emotionally stable. The need for moderation is to protect the emotionally unstable. So, in order to cater to the the weak, this forum must moderate the strong.

It's no fun going to a moderated bar where folks are only allowed milk just because some people can't handle a shot of good whiskey.

 

[sea2summit]

Because some of those @#$$^ drive the wrong color tractor...and doggone it, they need to be put in their place! (This is me attempting humor)

I have friends with whom biting comments are part of our banter. Others may see it as disrespectful, but if they said something to us in public, we would tell them to mind their own business. If the person to whom the comment is directed doesn't care, why should anyone else?

Other friends don't play that way and comments are more benign, if a tad bland.

We used to have a phrase about sticks and stones, but that no longer seems to apply either.

My long-winded point here is that some of us treat each other as friends. That treatment may not look the same depending on the friendship. If the complainer is not the person to whom the comment is directed, just move on. At the same time, if the complainer is that object of the comment, send a PM or reply to the author first. It may be just the two have different communication styles. Ultimately, be nice, but don't get worked up about others.

It’s hard to judge on forums, just the other day on this forum I responded with “xxxx go home your drunk” and apparently that was not okay because he doesn’t drink. Ohh well.