Your head was just rebuilt so do not lap the valves!!
You do not need to lap a valve if it is removed, I would only lap it if there were many hours on it and the seats looked rough or were leaking. Lapping compound can restore a seal as last resort to a valve job.
Many manufactures no longer recommend lapping, rather they now promote marking the valve with 4 lead pencil marks and then turning the valve on the seat ¼ turn to see if the valve is making full contact with the seat.
In your first post you said the head was rebuilt. The engine was running fine so there is no need for that. Also lapping compound is an abrasive so you must remove all traces of it.
Did you remove another piston to look at the oil ring? You are definitely missing the inner expander behind the oil ring rails.
As for the valves seals, I would prefer seals that fit over the guides but either will work in this application.
The lines in the guides are from the resizing process. Rather than machine the head and install new guides they knurl the bore to raise metal then ream it to size. Much cheaper.
I can see you are getting frustrated/confused, do not get off track.
The first priority is to verify whether the oil ring is missing a piece so removal of 1 piston or call the manufacture and ask if the ring is a 3 or 4 piece design.
That oil ring is the source of your trouble!
If you send me a private message & phone # I would be happy to talk with you..
90cummins