VH,
You're in a tough spot buddy. My wife and I bought land in your neighboring state and built a house in 2009. We moved in when it was substantially completed and knew we had a lot of yard work come summer.
I shopped for tractlors for 3 months, and finally bought one on my way home from work one day. I got home and kinda said "a guy will deliver a tractor Monday and park it beside tlhe garage". Her reaction was reserved but her normally easygoing manner ran a temperature for a few days.
It was very clear that we needed a machine on this property. A contractor gave us a price of $30k+ to grade and landscape the property (3+ acres mowable, 2+ acres graded and groomed). So, $17.5k for my
B2320 Kubota with blower and FEL was a relative bargain.
We graded, dug, moved gravel/stone/loam/mulch, york raked, planted trees, moved firewood, hauled stone, and moved snow. It more than paid for itself because the property looks like a park and we have a nice tractor. My son gets the tractor when I'm gone, it should last many more years. My friend in VT has had his Kubota for 26 years without trouble, so the money he paid for it back then is just a distant meaningless memory. (Hey, people buy expensive cars and most of them turn to junk sooner or later).
I initially was ready to buy a Sears 26hp mower with snow blower, chains, wheel weights, and cart for somewhere around $6000. That would have been a HUGE mistake as it would not be the right machine, nor would it keep up with the work the Kubota does.
I guess my point is this: with a tractor, the work is easier, faster, better, and larger scale. With a tractor, you can undertake projects you never would have before, or had to hire out. When I say better, I mean grading land or moving snow results in more utility of the land or driveway. Easier---you just don't know all the things you can use a bucket for.
So, if you're in a position to own a Kubota, and you have the work for it, Kubota financing now is a good program. My wife is very practical, and she knows now that we probably could not live on this hill without the tractor. (Hiring a plow & sand guy would buy a new tractor in 4 years).
Take your wife to a dealer to kick the tires. She may not turn the corner on tractors, but hey, it might inspire some sort of compromise with something near and dear to her. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.