It looks as though this may have gotten off topic, and I don't feel like reading all the middle stuff. Here's a little bit about the ltl industry from a guy who has dedicated 15 years of his life to bringing you your goodies.
Chances are, the implements you ordered will be delivered via an "ltl" carrier. Your two best options have already been listed here. Have the shipper either note "liftgate service" or "Hold for consignee pickup at destination terminal".
Liftgates are a nice thing, but nothing frustrates me more than showing up at a residence that a VW bug wouldn't fit into, and I'm here to deliver a 6' square crate with a 4' long liftgate (note the size disparity here?) attached to a 48' trailer. While most carriers will happily take the fee to show with a liftgate, chances are most will NOT leave half of their deliveries behind so that the run can be loaded on a pup trailer. Remember, the ltl carrier did not leave the barn that day just for you, he has 20 other customers who want their freight too. Don't mean to sound rude, but that's how this business works. It's why it runs you 200 in shipping via ltl, versus the 2 grand a dedicated would run.
Holding at the destination terminal is a win in many ways. It allows us to load your freight onto a 2' tall trailer for you to unload at your convenience, and keeps you from taking the day off on the day of delivery. It's rare we can make an appointment to a residence. We can give you a 4 hour window and that's about it. The carrier will allow you to leave the freight on their dock for a SHORT time, but they will charge you storage if you take more than a few days.
If no liftgate, a good trick for unloading heavy crates IF the driver will help you. Use two heavy planks as ramps against the lip on the back of the truck. Simply dig divots in the ground for the end of the planks to rest in, then stand a wooden pallet under the planks at the truck end, preferably leaning in slightly and resting against the truck. This is your safety. Throw sand on the planks. if the driver will help you muscle the equipment onto the ramp, it won't stop until it hits bottom.
Again, not to be rude, but remember that the ltl driver is most likely under intense pressure to deliver ALL of his days customers freight in a timely manner, so you will not be allowed to delay him more than 15 to 30 minutes without accruing charges. In the case of my company, our normal service is next day all of New England. There's no extra charge, that's just what we do. Buffalo to Calais, Maine, overnight. That includes bouncing between a couple of terminals before it gets to my truck, along with the other load of stops I need to make before 5pm. See why we hurry?
I hope this helped a little.
E